Time Flies When You’re in Love!

jft1Since I’ve started using the “Daily Bible Reading Schedule” card for the new year, I am constantly reminded of God’s unmatchable power and complete awesome-ness! One of my favorite things to do when I read is keep track of verses that stick out to me. This one actually made me stop everything and smile–really wide!

“So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her.” -Genesis 29:20. I love it! Jacob loved Rachel so much that he told Laban, her father, that he would serve him for seven years just to be able to have her as his wife. But Laban gave Jacob Leah, the eldest daughter instead. Poor Jacob! Of course, we learn that because he loved Rachel so much, he worked yet another seven years to be able to marry her! Every time I read this verse, I am so amazed at Jacob’s persistence to gain the one he truly loved. God watched over Jacob, and Jacob trusted God. I will continue to strive to do the same, and I hope and pray that one day, if it’s God’s will, He will show me a wonderful, good man like Jacob.

By Hannah Smith

What is Love?

love3“I feel like I am so in love with my boyfriend, but my parents question that. How do I know that what I feel is love?”

Love is a deep word. However, it is often used too casually and carelessly. You have probably heard the phrase “Love at first sight,” but I don’t believe that concept. Love takes work—a lot of work. Sometimes you may not feel very loving toward someone, even though you know you love them. But love is not just about feelings; it is an act involving effort, and a demonstration of selflessness.

When I first met the girl who would become my wife, “love at first sight” was not the case for me. Sure, I was infatuated with her, but I didn’t really know her, so how could I say that I really loved her? Being compatible with someone doesn’t mean that your relationship will result in love. I remember the main reason I wanted to marry her was because I was ready to settle down and work at our relationship, and because she made me a better person and encouraged and strengthened my relationship with God. My infatuation was not the deciding factor; my determination to work at the relationship and be selfless was. And by this point, I knew that I did love my wife. I love my wife more today than I did nine years ago when we met. Real, godly love does not stop growing. There are many examples of couples who have been married 50 years or more and when one dies, the other dies only weeks later. That person became so much a vital part of them that they couldn’t last without them.

When dating, you should be looking for a relationship in which there are biblical qualities of love. It just so happens that there is an entire chapter in the Bible that lists these qualities—1 Corinthians 13.

Ask yourself this question, and be honest: Do you have all these qualities of love for your boyfriend, or are you striving to improve your relationship with these qualities?

Patience: Are you often in a hurry to say your piece? Do you get impatient when he doesn’t call when he says he will?

Kind: Do you make an effort to encourage and build up your boyfriend?

Does not envy: Do you get jealous if he spends his time with other friends, or talks to another girl?

Does not boast: Do you lift yourself up, and in the process put him down?

loveIs not proud: Do you consider yourself better than him, or less of a sinner?

Is not rude: Do you do things to build him up, or do you embarrass him in front of others?

Is not self-seeking: Do you think of yourself first in the relationship, or do you put his wants and needs before your own? Does he do the same with you?

Is not easily angered: Do you anger easily at trivial things that he says or does?

Does not keep a record of wrongs: Do you keep track of little things he does or doesn’t do to upset you? Do you remind him of these things to make him feel guilty?

Does not delight in evil: Do you participate in ungodly activities with him? Does he encourage you to do things that are against biblical principles?

Always protects: Do you try to protect his heart from hurt, and him from the consequences of sinful choices?

Always trusts: Is he someone you can trust? Can he trust you?

Always hopes: Do you have a hope for a godly, lifelong relationship with him?

Always perseveres: Are you willing to work at your relationship to make it one that is pleasing to God?

Remember, our love and obedience for God is the most important and the most effective love to strive for. If you love God and have His directions foremost in your heart, then you can know that your love for other people is genuine.

If you have a question you’d like a guy’s opinion about, please let us know!

By Adam Grimenstein

A “Twue Love” Story

mediamatters11There are many, many love stories out there, but one stands out above the rest. It’s the perfect movie to watch with your date, with your friends, or with your family. It has the handsome hero, the beautiful princess, the (real?) giant, and the “inconceivable” villain.

Told as a story being read to a sick boy (Fred Savage) by his grandfather, The Princess Bride tells the love story of a beautiful maiden, Buttercup, and her farm boy, Westley. But when her love is captured by pirates and thought to be dead, she is chosen by Prince Humperdinck to be his princess bride. Through mistaken identity, kidnapping, fencing, and poisoning, the couple comes together again, only to be parted once more. But even ROUS’s and “mostly dead” cannot stop their “twue love.”

With interruptions by the “real-life” character, the sick boy, throughout the story, this movie is a delightful telling of a mediamatters2love story that everyone can enjoy.

Complete with action, humor, and fantasy, this movie of hilarious twists is sure to be the perfect addition to your date, girls’ night in, or family night together.

I give this movie two thumbs (or six fingers) up!

By Lisa Grimenstein

Top Ten Things About Being Single on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is often dreaded by girls who don’t have a boyfriend, but this year, there’s no need to worry! Be content with being single, and feel confident knowing that you’re holding out for a really special guy. This Valentine’s topten1Day, get creative – think of your own favorite things about being single, and really enjoy being you!

10) Dressing up is optional.

9) You get to choose who to spend the day with.

8 ) You can check the fluids in your car without a guy trying to show off what he knows.

7) Nobody will try to make you give up half of your favorite dessert.

6) There’s no pressure to spend time or money purchasing gifts.

5) You get to choose the movie (and watch it in your favorite Pjs!).

4) You get to spend the evening doing something you really enjoy.

3) A good attitude about being single may inspire other single girls to be happy with themselves, too.

2) You’ll have time to brighten someone else’s day.

1) Instead of being distracted by romance, you can focus on sharing God’s love with everyone.

By Davonne Parks

Valentine’s Party

candle-heartWe often have the picture perfect Valentine’s Day in our minds, and it usually includes a special someone. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all about relationships, though; this holiday can be a fun day for everyone!

One way to have fun on Valentine’s Day, whether in a relationship or not, is to throw a party with your friends! You could throw an around-the-world party, and have everyone bring an ethnic food, you could host a card-making party and have guests bring their favorite Valentine’s embellishment, or, if the party is just for girls, you could hang out and do a few fun girl things.

Valentine’s Party Tips

Spend a few hours cleaning. Like we mentioned in January, don’t worry about spending days scrubbing your house, but make sure everything looks nice. This is not a job for your mom! If you’ve never vacuumed or cleaned a bathroom, now is the time to learn. Make sure the house is straightened up, the floors are swept, the bathrooms are clean and well stocked, and the party areas have clean counters to place party items on.

Make it a fun friend time. The idea of the party is to have good, clean fun. Encourage everyone to have a fun time on this typically date-worthy holiday. Don’t use this as an opportunity to complain about not having a boyfriend or date.

Use free decorations. Look around your house, and have your friends look around theirs. Anything that’s pink, red, white, or has hearts will work. You may have some red paper plates from Christmas, white candles from a previous party, and a pink tablecloth for Easter. Put them together and you have a Valentine’s Day table! Think creatively when you come across anything that may work – balloons can be used in the main party area, throw blankets and pillows will help make the couch festive, and a red lamp shade will assist in creating a Valentine’s Day atmosphere. Don’t limit yourself to these ideas though – if you come across something that may work, take it to the party area with you and let it sit for awhile to see if inspiration strikes. In keeping with the first tip, make sure to put away your unused decorations as soon as you’re finished decorating.

lollipopProvide a few Valentine’s foods. If you’re planning on a full dinner, have everyone bring a dish to make things easier. Pink lemonade or red kool-aid make a fun drink option. For treats, you can make pink milkshakes, chocolate covered strawberries, iced heart sugar cookies, or chocolate cupcakes with red sprinkles. Most pink or red foods will work for this!

Be prepared with entertainment. Whether you choose to watch a movie, have a devotional, or do one of the things listed above, make sure to have your supplies ready before party time, so that every second of the party can be fun filled.

Don’t forget the camera! This evening is going to need to be documented on memory card.

Keep in mind

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can be a fun day to express appreciation to those we love. If you are single, just enjoy it! Spend time with your friends delighting in the love of the One who created love—God! Have fun with your friends, and try to be content knowing that you aren’t faced with some of the temptation or potential heartbreaks that dating people are faced with.

In everything, including our friendships and relationships with others, ask God for wisdom about what to do, open your heart to allow Him to show the way, then don’t be afraid to follow where He leads, because He loves us the most of all (John 3:16) and knows what’s best for our lives and our futures.

Have fun this Valentine’s Day, and feel secure in knowing that God will send the right person to you when His time is right.

Davonne Parks

Around the World

90555Since this month’s theme is “Pierce my heart to love like You do,” I hope you will be just as excited as I am about this month’s new recipes—focusing on foods from around God’s world! I’m going to give you some GREAT ethnic foods to try in this new year! We’ve got everything from Chinese food to Italian, and I think you’re going to love it! “To love like You do,” includes being open to and seeing the perspectives of others. If we’re open to trying new things, then we will have another opportunity to tell others about Christ. I encourage you to branch out and try some of these great recipes. And while you’re at it, ask someone who is from that country to tell you a little about their culture; they’ll be flattered, and you will probably make a new friend!

Around the World: Cooking Tips and Advice

Recipes always include a list of ingredients, but these questions and answers tell you what you need to have on hand to cook the ethnic foods that you love!

Chinese Cuisine
French Cuisine
Mexican Cuisine
Italian Cuisine

Setting the Mood:
Some fun things that you could do to set the tone for your meal are:

If you’re cooking Chinese:
-you could hang pretty paper lanterns and light candles.
-you could eat with chopsticks.

If you’re cooking French:
-set mood music, like some mellow French jazz

If you’re cooking Mexican:
-put chips and queso (cheese) on the table as a pre-dinner snack.
-play some Spanish music–it’s a really fun addition to the food.

If you’re cooking Italian:
-Make plenty of GARLIC BREAD!! To make cheap and easy garlic bread, put aluminum foil on a pan, add buttered bread, sprinkle garlic powder on top, and place in a preheated 250-degree oven for about ten minutes.

Ethnic meal ideas

Chinese
speedy_ginger-chicken_soup_bowlsSpeedy Ginger-Chicken Soup Bowls
Crispy Won Tons with Oriental Dipping Sauce
Gingered Shrimp with Cashews
Coconut Almond Cookies

French
Caramelized Onion Tart
Classic Potatoes Au Gratin
Quick Pork Cassoulet
Easy Crème Brûlée

Mexican
Ultimate 7-Layer Dip
Chipotle Tomato Soup
Black Bean & Rice Tostada
Creamy Mango Dessert

Italian
Minestrone Soup
Pesto Tortellini with Scallops
Chicken Marsala
Tiramisu Cheesecake

*If anyone has any recipes for Indian (or other) cuisine, please post them in a comment!

By Lexi Hammonds

Be My Valentine

helpinghands1Everyone loves to feel loved. And what better month to show others God’s love than the month of Valentine’s Day. After several busy months of larger projects, we’re going to spend February focusing on a simple gesture of love. Not toward your sweetheart, siblings, or even parents. Let’s share God’s love by sending Valentine’s to people who may have once received them, but may not anymore. I’m talking about widows, widowers, and older folks who often get lost in this holiday-of-love shuffle.

You may already have someone in mind who has lost a spouse, or who may spend this holiday alone. There may be several people at church, someone on your street, or a teacher at school. Choose several people to make a card for. If you don’t know anyone personally, consider making several non-specific Valentine cards for several people at a local nursing home.

I can’t remember many times in childhood that were more fun than making my Valentine’s in preparation for this exciting holiday. Gather your art supplies—glitter, glue, scissors, markers, anything—and some colorful paper, and let your creativity flow! I remember cut-outs, pop-ups, glitter heart stickers—anything to make your card truly original. If you’re having trouble getting started, visit Love To Know or HGTV to spark your own creativity. And don’t forget to check out our card-making article.

Although you may have more fun making the cards than you could have imagined, the real fun comes when you are helpinghands2finished and you get to deliver the cards to their recipients. I think there is a special feeling in seeing older people realize that on a holiday when so many are thinking about young love, someone was thinking about them. You may want to include a simple, single flower—or inexpensive bouquet—or some homemade cookies or bread (remember to consider possible dietary restrictions). Although they will be blessed to receive a card, you will be the one who is truly blessed in sharing God’s love with others.

– Lisa Grimenstein

Abortion Part I: Medical Breakthrough? Or nightmare?

FootInWombAbortion has become an acceptable resolution to an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. However, as Christians it is important that we know why abortion is unacceptable and the truth about what really happens during an abortion. I am going to cover the medical, spiritual, and legal perspectives of abortion. In this month’s article, we will look at the life of the mother and discuss the baby in a strictly medical scenario.

One thing that continually surprises me is how little people think about the affects an abortion has on their own body. It is true that pregnancy can be hard on a woman’s body. It puts pressure on blood vessels, and there are several conditions that can be related to pregnancy. However, getting an abortion can put you at higher risks for complications and most importantly, it ends a child’s life.

Is a “fetus” human?

I have done quite a few reports on abortion in the past for various courses I have taken. The more research I do, the more it hurts me. I heard my child’s heartbeat when I was 6 weeks pregnant. The baby’s heartbeat usually begins beating 21 days after conception. At that point, most women don’t even know they are pregnant yet. By 10 weeks of pregnancy, a baby has developed its brain, kidneys, liver, hands, fingers, eyelids, and fingernails, and can kick (although it’s usually unable to be felt by the mother yet). Most importantly, for those who argue that a fetus is not a human, upon conception, a fetus already has all the chromosomes needed to make up a human being and is constantly multiplying its cells. For cells to multiply, it must be living, and for it to have the 23 chromosomes (which determine hair and eye color, shoe size, etc.) it has to be human. These facts only point to the unborn as being a living human being.

The Bible also recognizes unborn children. Luke 1:41: “And it came to pass, that, when Elisabeth heard the salutation of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Ghost.” The child was recognized as a babe although it was not yet born.

For more detailed facts and information discussing the unborn, visit ChristianAnswers.net.

What happens in an abortion?

FeetOutsideWombI have seen the images of what abortion doctors call the “products of conception” of an abortion. However, because we have established that it is a baby, I will refer to it as that. The images are too graphic to share, and frankly, if I were able, I would erase the images from my memory. However, I will tell you a little about the procedure. (I am putting all of this into layman’s terms to make it easier to understand; I am in no way inflating or worsening the procedure to scare anyone—this is what really happens! For those who are faint of heart, you may want to skip the next two paragraphs.) Depending on what stage of pregnancy you are in, your doctor, and your medical history, there are several ways in which doctors go about it. In one procedure they use a long thin tube and insert it into the uterus and attach a syringe to suction the baby out of the mother. This procedure is called manual vacuum aspiration and is done up to week 7 of the pregnancy. The most widely used method of abortion is called suction curettage. In this procedure, the mother is usually given some type of anesthetic for pain. The doctor will insert metal rods to stretch the cervix open. Once open, the doctor then inserts a long tube into the uterus and connects it to a suction machine. The machine pulls the baby’s body apart and out of the uterus.

As graphic as these procedures are, partial birth abortions are even more horrific and vile.  Partial birth abortions are done between 24-36 weeks of pregnancy. During the procedure, “the cervix must be dilated using laminaria. Forceps are then introduced into the uterus to grasp the baby’s legs. The baby is delivered breech while the head remains inside the birth canal. Using blunt-tipped surgical scissors, the base of the skull is pierced and a suction catheter is inserted to extract the brain. This causes the skull to collapse and the dead baby is then fully delivered.”

Any way you look at these procedures, it is clear to me that abortion in any shape or form is murder. It kills an innocent, living human being.

(Abortion procedure information taken from pregnancycenters.org/abortion.html)

What can abortion do to the woman?

Abortion has many side effects. It can cause excessive bleeding, infection, and sepsis, damage to the uterus and uterus lining, and damage to other internal organs. On top of these side effects, having an abortion could affect future pregnancies. Women who have abortions have an increased chance of delivering prematurely. Many women who have abortions also suffer emotionally. They have feelings of guilt, anger, depression, and other symptoms which could lead to more physical ailments. There is also talk of a link between breast cancer and abortion:

“Medical experts are still researching and debating the linkage between abortion and breast cancer. Here are some important facts:

kikiCarrying your first pregnancy to full term gives protection against breast cancer.  Choosing abortion causes loss of that protection.

A number of reliable studies have concluded that there may be a link between abortion and the later development of breast cancer.

A 1994 study in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute found: “Among women who had been pregnant at least once, the risk of breast cancer in those who had experienced an induced abortion was 50% higher than among other women.”(http://www.pregnancycenters.org/abortion.html)

Ok, what can or should I do if I am a pregnant teen?

My advice would be to first, confess and ask God to forgive you for your sins, and repent. In this time, there is no one you need more than Him. Second, find an adult you trust. This needs to be someone who will support you. This person can be your parents, a friend, a counselor, or a teacher. This is one scenario where I STRONGLY urge you to talk to your parents as soon as possible. Procrastinating is unhealthy. You need to get medical treatment (prenatal vitamins, ultrasounds, etc.) as early as possible to ensure you and the baby are healthy.

It is important that you remember that just because you may sin, causing an unplanned pregnancy, you can still ask for and receive forgiveness. There is no reason to physically punish yourself with a harmful, unnecessary procedure or take an innocent life because of your mistake. Confess, repent, and prayerfully make a wise decision for your child, and yourself.

By Sarah Ancheta

Share the Love

“Do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.” Galatians 5:13

family2When asked, many of us would be quick to say that we love our families. But how often do we actually show that love? Do we spend more time yelling at our younger sister to get out of our room, or do we invite her in to listen to her tell about her day? Do we get irritated when our mom asks us to help with the dishes, or do we do them without being prompted, knowing that she has busily been taking care of other’s needs all day? As hard––and sometimes inconvenient––as it may seem, it’s time to start showing and sharing our love with our family, rather than just affirming it when others ask.

The month of Valentine’s Day offers a great opportunity to create a family “Share the Love” Day. If February 14th doesn’t work for your family, choose another day. You may even enjoy the effects of this day so much that your family might choose to do this every month! Start by putting everyone’s name in a hat. Then have each family member secretly draw a name. (Even though baby siblings can’t do this, really young family members, with the help of an older sibling, can enjoy and participate in this event.)

Now comes the fun part. After the family has designated a day, begin thinking of several things you can do for the family member whose name you drew. If you have a younger sibling, help them come up with some ideas. Some of these deeds may be done in secret, or they may obviously give away the identity of the “secret admirer.” Choose to play that game you’ve been putting off with your little brother. Fold some laundry or sweep the kitchen for Mom. Secretly place a note in your dad’s lunch, or, if it’s nice out, wash the car. Spend your day doing things for the other person.

A fun addition to this day is to include a Valentine breakfast––for dinner. Give Mom the night off, or have the entire family make “breakfast” together. Using a heart-shaped cookie cutter, cut out pieces of bread to make Valentine French toast. Top it with strawberries and whipped cream. You could also use a metal heart-shaped cookie cutter in a pan to create Valentine pancakes. Another great treat is a smoothie. I love the recipe below, which just happens to create pink smoothies––perfect for a Valentine’s Day meal. As you sit down to enjoy this fabulous feast, share your thoughts about the day. What made you feel the most loved? If you chose to keep your identities a secret, reveal to one another their “secret admirer.”

There are always ways to show your love and appreciation for your family, whether it’s a creative plan or a simple gesture. Don’t limit yourself to this month. Even if you are the only one in your family who continues to do this, choose a day each month to serve––and demonstrate love for––your family. Ephesians 6:7: “Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men.” Their pleasure at these constant surprises will be worth more than all the free time you might want to spend on yourself.

Strawberry-Banana Smoothies
family3Makes 3-4

3-4 cups vanilla frozen yogurt
1/4 cup orange juice
1/3 cup milk
7-10 strawberries
1 large banana

Blend until smooth.

By Lisa Grimenstein

February 2009 Desktop Image

If you’d like to have our theme image on your desktop this month, simply click on “standard” or “wide-screen” underneath the photo, then right click on the image and select “set as background.”  Note: laptops are generally wide-screen, and desktops are usually standard images.

Pierce my heart to love like You do, 1 Corinthians 13:6-8: “…[Love] rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…”

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