Ten Ways to Serve

extra1“Pierce my Heart to serve.” The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines serving as: “to answer the needs of, to be enough for, to contribute or conduce to, or to provide services that benefit or help.” Serving God is a way to help in the lives of others, and can be a way to enrich our lives as well. I’m sure that you have heard of the saying, “It’s not the gift, but the giving.” This implies to serving as well. By serving others, you have helped others and also yourself at the same time. Here are some tips for serving:

10) Getting exercise and being healthy is a great way to serve God. Our bodies are Christ’s temples, and we should treat them as such (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). So, a great way to exercise, while seeming not to exercise, is to play a game that requires movement. You can get together with friends and “serve” by playing tennis, volleyball, racquetball, or ping pong.

9) Fill a serving bowl full of your favorite snacks and enjoy a clean movie with friends!

8 ) Be an example at work by serving others in a manner that reflects God within you.

7) Give money to a worthy cause. Many churches have ongoing projects that need help. Or you can donate to a service project. St. Jude Children’s Hospital is one place you can donate to, but there are many other organizations out there, so look until you find the one that you want to support––make sure they are sound organizations that do not support unbiblical principles.

topten26) Find a service project that interests you, and then dedicate your service to completing the project.

5) Find a way, every day, to show His light within. Regardless of the sinful habits of those around you, you can pray for God to help you allow His light to be shown through your behavior and words.

4) Put others before yourself. Be willing to help someone else before doing something for yourself.

3) Remember why Jesus came: “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45).

2) Share Him. It is so awesome to tell others about God’s gift of salvation, and by doing so, serve His purposes of sharing the gospel with the lost.

1) Serve God as an example, as teachers, mothers, friends, and sisters in Christ (Matthew 5:19). Set an example by hanging onto your temper, practicing patience around others, and by forgiving someone who has wronged you.

Megan Skinner

Today’s Kind Deed

extra2It’s easy to get so busy and caught up in our own lives that we can forget to help others around us. I suggest committing to do one kind thing for someone every day. The concept is old, but it’s still a good one! Once you begin to get in the habit of helping others, you’ll find the opportunities come easily, since you’ll be looking for them, and many kind deeds can be accomplished in just a few minutes.

Kind deed ideas

1) Let someone go ahead of you. If you’re waiting in line at the store with your arms full of items to purchase, and there’s someone behind you with just a few things, let him go first. You’ll only have to wait a few extra minutes, and it might make his day.

2) Straighten up something. Maybe the living room is covered in a younger sibling’s toys––put them away! Or load the dishwasher, or put toiletry items in the bathroom.

3) Speak to someone new. The new girl in your youth group or at school may need a friend, so be one! Go up to her and start a friendly conversation. You may end up making a new friend.

The possibilities are endless! Pray that God will open your heart to helping others; then have fun serving Him by doing a kind deed every day for someone else (Matthew 25:40).

By Davonne Parks

Simple Solutions

haf2We have been talking about renewing an exercise routine and living healthy. Eating healthy is a big part of living healthy. No one likes the thought of dieting, because that means eliminating the stuff that we want to eat and the stuff that is convenient to eat. However, there are many simple food substitutions we can make to eat healthier––and still enjoy the foods we love. The Bible tells us to be wise in our eating habits. The way that we eat, drink, and care for the body that God gave us can bring glory to Him. “Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31 NKJV).

Portion Control

One of the simplest things we can do is watch the serving size of foods. Become familiar with nutrition labels, and read the ingredients. Nutrition labels contain the amount of calories per serving size. A serving of cereal does not mean just grabbing the cereal box out of the cupboard and filling the bowl to the top. Most serving sizes for cereals are ½–1 cup of cereal, followed by ¼– ½ cup of milk. When you are eating chips or cookies, don’t just grab a handful––look at the serving size. If the serving size is 17 chips or 2 cookies, just take that amount. It may initially feel like a pain to have to count out everything you eat, but you will become accustomed to what a serving looks like and you will feel so much better about your progress in the long run. You can also purchase a kitchen scale, as some serving sizes are based on ounces or grams.

Substitutions

Other changes you can make involve substituting healthier choices for the more fattening snack ideas. You can substitute applesauce instead of oil for cake and brownie mixes. The applesauce still makes the batter moist and delicious, and you don’t have the negative qualities of the oil. Switch to whole wheat breads, pastas, and rice instead of white, making sure the first ingredient on the nutrition label is “whole grain.” Salsa with fresh tomatoes, onions, and garlic is a much healthier alternative to most chip dips. Baking instead of deep frying also cuts down on the calories. Compare different cooking sprays versus butter, margarine, or Crisco when frying and baking. I found this handy chart for junk food cravings at BabyCenter.com.

Instead of Try
Ice cream Nonfat frozen yogurt or reduced-sugar ice cream
Can of cola Mineral water with fruit juice or a squeeze of lime
Doughnut or sweetened pastry Whole-grain bagel with jam
Slice of cake Low-fat banana-nut or zucchini bread, or angel food cake topped with fresh strawberries
Sugar cereals Whole-grain cereal or oatmeal topped with brown sugar and cinnamon
Potato chips Low-fat chips, microwave popcorn, or pretzels
Sour cream Nonfat sour cream or nonfat plain yogurt
Sundae toppings Fresh berries or sliced bananas. If you crave crunch, throw on some crispy rice cereal.
Canned fruit in sugar syrup Fresh fruit or unsweetened frozen fruit
Chocolate Fat-free hot cocoa made with nonfat milk. Or make some trail mix with raisins, dried fruits, nuts, and a small handful of chocolate chips.
Cookies Graham crackers. Add a little peanut butter for pizazz.
Cheesecake or other creamy dessert Small slices of cheese on whole-wheat crackers, or low-fat rice or vanilla pudding


Fast food tips

haf3If you are craving fast food, or if fast food is your only option and you need something quickly, try ordering from the kid’s menu. Kid’s meals are smaller portions, and more accurate to the amount we actually need, meaning fewer calories. Most fast food restaurants now offer side dish options where you can choose a salad or fruit instead of french fries. Water instead of soda is always a good option, and grilled chicken sandwiches contain less fat and calories than hamburgers (just don’t negate the healthiness with tons of mayo!). Many fast food chains are making the nutritional information for their products available. Make sure to ask for that information if it is not readily available. A good tip when ordering––the words “small,” “kiddie,” and “regular” identify the appropriate serving sizes with fewer calories.

Moderation

Eating healthy can be as simple as making some food substitutions. Fruits and vegetables are always great snack options over candy and chips. Watch your serving sizes, and make sure you are staying active. Make sure you do not become obsessed with counting everything out and always eating the healthiest choice. It is okay to splurge once in awhile and have some ice cream instead of the yogurt. If you feel that you do have a problem with food, exercising, or being overweight, make sure you speak with your doctor. He or she can help you make out a food or exercise plan that is specially suited for you. Do not allow your eating behaviors to become unhealthy, and remember that our most important goal is to follow Christ’s example and live for Him. “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? … But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:25, 33).

Food of the Month: Water

haf4The human body is about 50–70% water. Water serves as the medium through which nutrients and wastes enter and leave the body. Water is needed in all aspects of bodily function. It regulates body temperature, blood pressure, and blood volume. Water lubricates joints and serves as a cushion (such as in the eyes and in the amniotic fluid during pregnancy). It is recommended for adults to take in 8 glasses of water per day. Water intake is encouraged throughout the day, especially when sweating, partaking in vigorous activities, being in hot climates, and during illness. Thirst is a late sign of dehydration, which has already occurred before the body is prompted to replace fluid loss. The best part about water is that it has no calories! Water can be consumed at every meal, and still not add any extra calories to what you are already eating. You can even add a twist of lime or lemon juice to add some flavor if you need an extra kick. With warmer months approaching, make sure you are taking in plenty of water to stay healthy and active.

By Sherri Houmard

Delightful Dining: Entertainment and Menu

Stock PhotoIn parts one through four of our “Delightful Dining” series, we discussed the people, planning the meal, preparing the meal atmosphere, and service. Today we’re going to offer tips for entertainment, and give menu suggestions that include links to recipes online.

Entertainment

Options: The entertainment is optional––you may choose to just have company over for dinner. But if you’d like to make an entire evening out of it, feel free to plan a little after-dinner entertainment––just make sure your guests know in advance so they can plan ample time to stay. Be sensitive to the guests’ needs––if dinner ran long, and they need to get home, graciously accept their declination of the offer to stay. (If you had a great game night planned, the hosts can still play after the guests leave!)

TV-Free: A note of caution: unless all of your guests are movie buffs, keep the TV off! If they are movie buffs, and you choose to watch a movie, make sure the movie is clean and appropriate to watch. (Plugged In is a great movie review website.)

Talk: If the conversation is going strong, everyone can just sit around and talk for awhile, but that may put more pressure on people to keep the conversation flowing, especially if they’re not used to being together for extended periods of time, so it may be better to have actual activities planned.

Games: The other option is to play a game. Someone in your group may bring a fun game that all ages can enjoy. Cards are an easy choice, as games can include an indefinite amount of people, and rules can generally be adapted to meet the needs of the players. Depending on the ages and interests of the players, games like Catch-Phrase and Clue may also be good options.

Menu

Click on a menu item below to be directed to that recipe. Feel free to use these ideas, or to come up with your own.

cc24Beverages
Lemonade or Iced Tea
Milk
Coffee (make sure it’s decaf!)

Dinner – Option One
Chicken – grilled or baked
Fruit Salad
Broccoli and Cheese (use fresh or frozen broccoli)
Fettuccine Alfredo
Dinner Rolls

Dinner – Option Two
Spaghetti or Lasagna
Salad
Fresh Fruit
Garlic Bread

Dessert
Lemon Meringue Pie (use an unbaked homemade crust for best results)
Brownies

Departure

All good things must come to an end, including the evening (and this series!). When your guests begin to leave, gather their coats and purses, and see them to the door. Make sure to thank them for coming and sharing the meal, and the evening, with you.

Romans 12:10–13 “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor…devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.”

By Davonne Parks

Delightful Dining: The Service

Delightful DiningIn parts one through three of our “Delightful Dining” series, we discussed the people, planning the meal, and the meal atmosphere. Today we’re going to talk about service during the meal.

Service

Take their coats. When people walk in the door, someone can offer to take their coats and purses, and place the items in a designated area.

Seat the guests. If dinner is on the table, go ahead and seat the guests at the table if they arrive together. Otherwise, show them where they can sit, such as in the living room, while they wait for dinner to be ready and the other guests to arrive. A host can sit with them, if possible, to start an appropriate conversation and help the guests feel at ease.

Pour the drinks. While a few people are putting the finishing touches on dinner, one or two people can find out what the guests would like to drink, and have the drinks ready at the table. If dinner will be several more minutes, ask the company if they would like to have their drink in advance. Extra beverages could be kept on the table, if there’s room, or in the fridge so they’ll stay cold.

Pray. Have someone designated to lead the group in prayer, thanking God for the food and fellowship.

Serve the food. This can be done several ways. If you’re having a buffet-style meal, allow the guests to go first. If the meal has been placed on the table, family style, guests can choose a dish, take what they want, and pass it to their left. This may be good for the hosts to start, as guests are often unsure of what to do and will wait to see an example. The other, and more formal, option is to serve the guests their meal at their seats. The company can sit down, and the cooks/servers can bring them their plates of food, restaurant style. This is a good option if there isn’t much extra space on the table, since food dishes in the center won’t be necessary, or if there isn’t much counter space to spread the food on. However, it will also mean more work for the hosts who will need to stay aware of empty plates so they can offer seconds.

Stock PhotoRefill drinks. Someone who is observant, and in a convenient location, can be on the lookout for near-empty glasses and offer to refill them.

Have nice conversation. Ask the guests an open-ended question about themselves, or about something you know they’re interested in, such as their children or a ministry they’re involved in. It’s okay for the hosts to offer information about themselves, too, but make sure to not dominate the conversation.

Clear the meal. All of the hosts can clear the table, put the dirty dishes in the sink, and put the food away, in just a few minutes. Insist the guests relax at the table while you’re doing this, and the person in charge of drink refills can refill drinks while this job is being completed.

Serve dessert. While someone is clearing the table, and someone else is refilling drinks, a third person can work on dishing out the dessert. When these jobs are done, everyone can simply take the dessert plates to the table, putting them in front of the guests first, then serving themselves and sitting back down.

Everybody, clean up! (Except the guests, that is.) Most of the clean-up should already be complete, so this job should be easy. Once dessert is over, take the dessert dishes to the sink, and load the dishwasher. Guests should not help with this (remember, you’re serving them), so they can sit in the living room and relax while clean-up is being completed.

Coming up

We’re going to close out this series by giving a few entertainment ideas, as well as offer menu suggestions, so check back soon!

By Davonne Parks

Delightful Dining: The Atmosphere

cc1In parts one and two of our “Delightful Dining” series, we discussed the people and meal planning. Today we’re going to talk about setting a proper meal atmosphere.

Atmosphere Planning

Much of the set-up, except the actual cooking, can be done the day before, so keep that in mind if the meal is set for a weekday, or for breakfast or lunch hours.

Choose music, if you’re having any. Soft dinner music can be relaxing as a background noise, but it’s not necessary, so decide if you’re going to have music, and if so, have the CD ready and take it with you when it’s time to prepare for the meal.

Allow ample time. If dinner is set for 6:00PM, don’t show up at 5:30! Everyone should meet several hours in advance to clean and prepare without feeling rushed (which can lead to stressed, snippy words). If there is extra time, people can touch up their look or just relax for awhile before company arrives.

Clean the house. Everyone should help with this. Closets and basements don’t need cleaned out, but areas that company will be in should look and smell presentable. Put uncaged pets and their food dishes in a different area of the house (or outside), and make sure to disinfect the areas they were in. Scrub the bathroom, clear off and sanitize kitchen counters, vacuum and mop, and make sure things are straightened up so the house has a tidy, welcoming feel in general. If pet or other odors linger, light scented candles, and if possible, open windows to let fresh air in for a really clean scent.

cc22Set the table. Use a pretty tablecloth, fresh flowers, or a candle to decorate the table. There’s no need to buy anything––someone involved will probably have something that can be used. Make sure there are enough chairs for everyone, and if an additional table needs set up, this is the time to do that. Fancy dishes don’t need to be used, but the table can still be set properly for a pulled-together feel. Steps 4–8 on eHow have helpful table-setting tips. Name cards are optional, but whether formal cards are set out or not, make sure to give the guests the best seats.

Cook the meal. Non-cooks can help by chopping items, stirring food, washing dishes as they’re ready, or getting out and putting away ingredients as needed. Doing this will save the cook a lot of time and energy, and will help the overall cooking process to run smoothly.

Finishing touch. Transfer food to pretty serving dishes if possible, and place everything neatly where it will be served to complete the look.

Coming up

Next, we’ll talk about serving guests, then we’ll discuss entertainment ideas, as well as give menu suggestions, so check back soon!

By Davonne Parks

Delightful Dining: The Meal

cc11We’ve recently talked about serving a meal to other people, and we’re going to continue with new tips and instructions about planning the meal (full menu suggestions will be posted later).

Remember that these lists are for all of the volunteers, and are broken down in detailed step-by-step instructions, so you may only be doing a few items!

Meal Basics

Know special needs. Ask all guests and volunteers if they have any dietary restrictions (such as allergies or health issues), and write that information down to use when planning the menu. If the host has pets, this is a good time to ask about pet allergies.

Plan the menu. Keep this simple! If everyone in your group is an experienced cook, go ahead and cook a fancy meal; otherwise, stick with a simple dinner, which will be just as appreciated and a lot less stress. Keep the overall cost in mind. Out-of-season fruits and vegetables will be more expensive to purchase, as will most seafood and steaks.

Make a grocery list. Go over all recipe lists in your menu and write down the amount of each ingredient needed. People may be able to donate a few items from home, so check on that, then make a grocery list of everything else that still needs to be purchased.

Collect donated items. It’s better to collect all items the group volunteered to donate now. This way, you can make sure everything needed will be there, which is much better than having to run out to the store at the last minute if someone forgets or runs out of an ingredient right before the meal day.

cc21Buy the groceries. This can be done a few days in advance, but if there are items that may spoil, such as milk or fresh vegetables, don’t buy things much before then. Only purchase what is needed for the dinner. Make sure to buy enough, but don’t buy too much (this is where writing down the amount needed for recipes comes in handy). If there are two brands of cheese, buy the cheaper brand. That may only save you a dollar on cheese, but a dollar saved on several items really adds up! Remember that everyone is giving money based on a set budget.

Store everything. This is best done at whichever house the food will be cooked. Make a note on each item so someone in the house doesn’t accidentally eat something that’s for the dinner. All items that can be kept at room temperature can be left in the grocery bag and placed out of the way, so it’ll be easy to grab on cooking night.

Collect the money. Divide the final amount on the grocery receipt by the number of people helping financially to determine how much each person owes. Hopefully, everyone has planned and shopped carefully enough that each person only owes a small amount of money.

Coming up

Next we’ll talk about the atmosphere, so stay tuned!

By Davonne Parks

Delightful Dining: The People

cc1In keeping with our theme of service this month, we’re going to have a five-part series about serving others with a meal. We’re told in 1 Peter 4:10 that, “As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another…” Whether we can cook well or not, we can use our gifts to help serve this meal!

We’re going to start the week off by talking about enlisting help from others and inviting the guests; we’ll continue into how to plan the meal, how to prepare the host’s home, and the proper way to serve company. Then we’ll close off the week with a few suggestions for entertainment, as well as offer full menu suggestions and recipe links.

The upcoming lists and suggestions can be used by everyone involved in the planning, and volunteers can choose different responsibilities from the lists to complete. It may be helpful to print several copies for, or send links to, the other volunteers so they can have a reference during the planning process.

People Planning

Enlist help from others. Maybe your family would like to serve a meal together, or maybe a group of friends (or just one other friend) would like to be involved. Let others know your idea, and don’t turn anyone down who expresses an interest in helping. Also, be sensitive to other people’s financial needs––if someone wants to help, but can’t contribute financially, warmly accept their offer to help and tell them not to worry about the money.

Choose a place. Your group can pick the most appropriate house for the occasion––maybe someone has a large kitchen, or a big dining room table. Take advantage of that if it’s okay with their parents! If everyone has small spaces, don’t let that stop you––you can borrow a card table and chairs from someone or lay out a picnic blanket on the floor for younger guests. If the weather is nice, have an outdoor dinner, setting up card tables or picnic tables.

Set a tentative date. Tentatively set a specific date and time, but have a few possible dates in mind that will work for your group. This will allow some flexibility when talking to the potential guests in case most of them aren’t available on your first date choice.

cc2Designate jobs. There are plenty of jobs available that don’t include cooking! An artistic group member can plan on setting the dinner table or decorating the dessert. Someone who loves to talk on the phone could call to invite the guests. An organized person can manage everyone helping to make sure all needed areas are taken care of, and they could make to-do and grocery lists. The shopper of the group could pick up the groceries from the store, and the person who loves math can figure out how much everyone owes so one person isn’t stuck with most of the bill, or which store to shop at to get the best deals. No matter what everyone’s talent is, if you think creatively, you can use those talents to help with this event.

Plan a guest list. Allow your group to have input on this so you can all decide who to invite together. Keep this simple, and invite somebody who wouldn’t expect it. If there’s a lady at church who often does things for others without reciprocation, invite her (and her husband, if she’s married). Or you can invite an elderly couple, or someone who’s spouse has passed away. Maybe a neighbor lives alone and would love an evening of fellowship. Keep the guest list fairly small (four to eight people is a good amount), but make sure to include everyone in their household––if you invite an elder and his wife, also invite any children who are still living at home.

Finalize the date and time. The phone person can call around to tell all guests and helpers the exact date and time to be marked on their calendars.

Exchange numbers. Make sure the guests have your phone number, and you have theirs, so you can contact each other if any plans change. It may also be helpful to make a phone number sheet with all of the volunteers’ names and numbers to copy and pass around to the group who’s serving (a great job for the organizational person!).

Coming up

Later, we’ll discuss other aspects of planning this dinner. You can start planning now by following the “people planning” list, and continue later with the details that will follow. Enjoy serving Christ by serving others!

By Davonne Parks

Baking!

Gifted Girls is featuring baking this month, so we’re posting photos, and linking to recipes, of things we’ve baked and cooked. It’s so easy to serve others with food (Matthew 25:34-40)––you can just cook something in two small pans instead of one large pan, or double a recipe, and take half to someone in need, whether you’re making a simple dessert from a box, or a fancy dinner.

Things we’ve made
Click on photos to be directed to recipes.

Baked Apple Pancake - Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Baked Apple Pancake - Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Ultimate Brownies – Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Ultimate Brownies – Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Sugar Cookies – Made by Carol Gartman and Davonne and Lily Parks (recipe not available)

Sugar Cookies – Made by Carol Gartman and Davonne and Lily Parks (recipe not available)

Peanut Butter Cookies – Made by Nathan and Lily Parks

Peanut Butter Cookies – Made by Nathan and Lily Parks

Your turn

Click on a link above, browse our Cooking Corner, do an online search for a recipe you’d like to try, or open up a recipe book. Once you find something that strikes your fancy, check to see if you have most or all of the ingredients, shop for what you don’t have, then start cooking! You may just discover a skill and interest you didn’t even know you had (1 Corinthians 7:7b).

Next month

Next month is the start of our special summer edition of the magazine, and in honor of that, we’re going to feature bedroom and household decorations. If you’ve made something for your home (picture frames, pottery, pillows, wall art, paintings, etc.), send us a photo! You can e-mail all entries to Info @ PierceMyHeart .com (remove spaces).

By Davonne Parks

Swimming Around Guys

aag1I believe that it’s fine to go swimming with guys, as long as I wear a modest bathing suit. I’ve heard others say we shouldn’t go mixed swimming at all. What do you think?

For most of us, it would be a new way of thinking to change our lifestyles when it comes to swimming arrangements. And probably a lifestyle that females think nothing about, but a change that guys would, honestly, probably not want but would benefit from. Guys have an incredibly hard time controlling their eyes and thoughts. They will be tempted to lust over females no matter how modest the bathing suit is or isn’t.

To go swimming in the presence of the opposite sex is not in itself a sin, but I do believe there are many things we should not do to keep a brother or sister in Christ from stumbling (1 Corinthians 10:32). Avoiding mixed swimming may be one of those things. A girl going swimming with guys may cause many of the guys to stumble and fail at controlling their eyes and keeping their thoughts pure. Truthfully, the best way for you to avoid causing males to stumble and to respect guys in that area is to change your swimming arrangements and to only swim with other girls or with family.

This can be applied to so many other situations in life other than swimming, such as wearing revealing clothing at work, or even church. But the point is to be mindful of those around you and their walk with God, as well as being pleasing to God. It’s also important to remember that guys are created differently than girls, and that includes sexuality. Although it may not affect you, or tempt you sexually, when you swim with the opposite sex, it does affect and tempt guys. While I think this is a struggle that is hard for girls to comprehend, it is something you seriously need to consider when striving to please God.

By Adam Grimenstein