Archives for August 2009

Happily Ever After

jft12I love fairytales. I love movies with happy endings, stories that conclude with “happily ever after,” and tales of true love. These types of stories may be “unrealistic” to some, but I thoroughly enjoy them…and I believe I now see why!

The Bible is like a love letter from God. We read plainly, “For God so loved the world…” in John 3:16, and, “…He loved us…” in 1 John 4:10; therefore we know that God loves us. If you get a handwritten letter––even a short card––in the mail, you feel appreciated and loved, don’t you? Well, God’s given you a whole Book (2 Timothy 3:16). In that Book, He tells us what obedience is, how we are saved, and how we can live with God and Jesus eternally one day.

Jesus, our Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6), died for us. He loved us so much––enough to give everything for us (Hebrews 2:17)––in order that we could be forgiven of our sins (1 John 4:10), and be given a home with Him some day (Mark 8:34; 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17).

Doesn’t this remind you of the beautiful fairytales we love so much? Well, guess what…it’s not a fairytale! We can live life knowing that He will return for us. How wonderful it is that we have such a Prince from God, with whom we can live “happily ever after” someday.

By Hannah Smith

Completing the Outfit: Giveaway

ss1“Does a maiden forget her jewelry, a bride her wedding ornaments?” (Jeremiah 2:32)

One size fits all––words we all love to hear. Whether it’s gold or silver, jeweled or not, it’s nice to know that there are some things in our wardrobe that will always fit. And there are few ways to add to or complete an outfit more easily or inexpensively than jewelry.

Whether an occasion calls for something casual and basic or a little more formal, there is an abundance of accessories to be found. While everyone has her own taste in jewelry, there are a few simple things to remember when accessorizing.

Accessorize and remove

Sometimes, especially if we’re new to accessorizing, we tend to overdo it. We figure that, when it comes to jewelry, we need one necklace, one pair of earrings, one bracelet, our watch, a ring. Remember that your jewelry should complement your outfit, not overwhelm it. Allow it to add some color and personality to your wardrobe without using it to make your ultimate statement. So, I’ve often heard it said to put on the jewelry you have planned and then remove one piece. This usually cuts down on any overdoing.

Don’t let your neck and ears compete

Some people have a problem when it comes to earrings and necklaces. They find a great, dangly pair of earrings that would go great with an outfit, and also a chunky necklace to wear with it. But when both pieces are worn together, they compete with one another. If you are wearing an attention-getting necklace, keep your earrings simple––gold or silver hoops or small studs. If you really love the way a pair of earrings looks with an outfit, wear a simple, complementing necklace with them, or skip the necklace altogether.

Distractingly ear-catching

ss2Although fun, playful bangles are popular right now, they can also be very distracting––not to look at, but to hear. Keep this in mind when accessorizing. If you’re going to be at school or church, or some other “quiet” location, don’t wear something––like bangles––that are going to be distractingly noisy every time you move. Save them for a fun day out with friends.

Draw the attention upward

One great thing about jewelry––specifically earrings and necklaces––is that it draws the focus upward, toward your face, and away from any areas you don’t want noticed. (Also, longer necklaces tend to slim the body because of the vertical lines they create.) Colorful necklaces and dangly earrings frame your face, making it more of a focal point. This is where we want others’ focus to be––on our face.

Start accessorizing!

Whether you’re hanging out with some girlfriends, dining with your husband, or attending a wedding, it’s always the perfect time to start accessorizing your wardrobe. Remember, though, that our beauty should not come from what we put on but by what is coming out of us (1 Peter 3:3). We are most beautiful when we are reflecting Christ through the Spirit in us.

“Then adorn yourself with glory and splendor, and clothe yourself in honor and majesty.” Job 40:10

Giveaway

ssnecklaceThis month, we’re giving away a necklace, perfect for the married or unmarried, or even as a shower gift for a special bride-to-be in your life. This heart-shaped necklace with the phrase “Love never fails” enscripted on it is a simple and perfect way to dress up any outfit, casual or not.

To enter the contest, please leave a comment by August 29 on this post telling us what your favorite piece of jewelry is, or a subject you’d like to see covered in a future Style Sense article.

We’ll announce the winner on August 31. Good luck!

By Lisa Grimenstein

Visit our Monthly Issues page to view all of our past themes, and visit our August 2009 page to read our entire current issue, in a blog-type format, about marriage.

Instantly Changed: The Marriage

Go here and here to read parts one and two in this series.

h2haMy life changed in just an instant of passion. Frank and I married as soon as he was finished with basic training. We lived with my parents for a couple of months and then moved into an apartment. I clung to the hope that Frank truly loved me because he cried and held me tight before he left for basic training. We held each other and we both cried. I took that as my sign that I should go ahead and marry him when he returned. Up until that point, I was still undecided. My parents told me that I didn’t have to marry him just because I was pregnant. They let me make up my own mind.

Being a single, pregnant teenage mom was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. I never fit in again with my peers. They were all going off to college to start their lives away from home and to pursue careers. At that time, I felt like I missed a fun time of growing up, and I missed the opportunity to go to college.

Frank got a job his last year of high school and gave me the money for our baby’s expenses. He also sent money home to me while he was in basic training. He did try to provide for us and perhaps he loved me in his own way.

He always had a job; although, throughout our marriage he was fired or lost jobs from time to time. All through our marriage he was emotionally abusive. He was unfaithful to me several times that I knew for certain and countless other times that I couldn’t find a way to prove. His stories never added up, or they were so bizarre that in retrospect, they weren’t even believable. It was a bittersweet marriage. He was way too harsh with the children and at times physically abusive to them. I knew I had to get out, but I didn’t know where to find the strength.

Check back soon to read part four in this series.

Anonymous

Beat the Heat by Beading!

When it’s hot out, we often head inside for awhile to find something to keep ourselves busy. This month, for our Gifted Girls column, we are looking at jewelry. Making jewelry is a great way to stay busy and have fun in the summertime! Show younger girls in the congregation that they are special to you by making them bracelets. Bead a pair of earrings for a special role model woman in your life. There are tons of different colors, shapes, and sizes, so be creative! Here are some photos to get you inspired:

Made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Earrings made by Hannah Smith

Earrings made by Hannah Smith

Bracelets made by Hannah Smith

Bracelets made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Davonne Parks

Bracelet made by Davonne Parks

For instructions on how to make your own beaded jewelry, search online, visit your local craft store, or go to beadage.net.

Coming Up

If you’ve gone on a beach vacation, or just played in a sandbox this summer, please submit a photo of your sand creations to Info @ PierceMyHeart . com (remove spaces) by August 29 for use in our Gifted Girls column next month!

By Hannah Smith

Congratulations: July Giveaway Winner

I apologize for the delay in posting the winner of July’s giveaway. My daughter decided to come three weeks early and was born on July 25, so I’ve been a little preoccupied this past week!

jft8The random winner of our bag of beauty supplies is Sarah (gal4birdz@)! You should have an e-mail from Pierce My Heart in your inbox. If not, please contact us within seven days to claim your prize.

Thanks to everyone who participated in this contest by leaving comments on our article. If you didn’t win this month, please try again in August, because we have another fun giveaway coming up.

Congratulations, Sarah! We hope you enjoy your new beauty products!

– Davonne Parks

Our Bridegroom

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10)

This month’s theme is “Pierce my heart for marriage,” and it’s remarkable how much of our reading for this month is related to it.

extra9Luke 23–24 focuses on Jesus’ death and resurrection. Many times in Scripture, Jesus is referred to as our Bridegroom (Matthew 9:15). As we see at the end of Luke, He made the ultimate sacrifice to show His love for us––He gave His life for us. He commands all husbands to sacrificially love their wives, just as He loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).
Just “as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will [our] God rejoice[s] over [us]” (Isaiah 62:5). How awesome to have Someone Who loves us so much and rejoices over us!

However, we do not always respond to God with such appreciation for this sacrificial love. The book of Hosea compares Israel’s love for God to that of a harlot, as Israel is constantly unfaithful to Him, never valuing what He has done for her. And yet, God does not ultimately abandon Israel, regardless of her desire for other loves.

In this month’s reading of the gospel of John, we encounter several occasions when Jesus dealt with weddings and marriages. In John 2, He performs His first miracle, changing water into wine at a wedding feast. In chapter 4, He speaks to a Samaritan woman at a well––not acceptable for a Jewish man to do––confronting her about her sinful behavior regarding men and marriage. Whether in marriage or not, we are commanded in God’s Word to be sexually pure (1 Thessalonians 4:3, 7), avoiding sexual immorality.

Proverbs not only addresses women and wives, but it also gives wisdom that, while pertaining to all relationships, applies to marriages entirely. It tells us that a wise woman builds up her house (Proverbs 14:1). Proverbs 15:1 gives wisdom from which every person could profit: “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” It is often easy to use harsh words toward our spouses, stirring up anger and resentment. These harsh words often result from impatience and keeping track of past wrongs, which Scripture tells us is not a characteristic of godly love (1 Corinthians 13).

As women and wives, we have the power––and responsibility––to control the environment in our homes. And it is a big responsibility. Our attitudes can affect those of our husbands and children. Proverbs 17:1 tells us: “Better is a dry morsel with quietness, Than a house full of feasting with strife.” As wealthy as we may be, or as many things as we may have, it is only strife if the home does not put God first.

As many wonderful books as there are available on marriage, there is one we should go to first in order to find out what makes a godly, successful marriage––God’s Word. The Bible is filled with His commands for marriage, and His example of sacrificial love. Whether we are married or not, we only have to go so far as to His Word to discover what makes a wife who is pleasing to God.

By Lisa Grimenstein

dbr11Suggested Reading for August

AUG 1 Luke 23-24
AUG 2 1 Thes 4-5
AUG 3 Lev 22-24
AUG 4 2 Kings 21-25
AUG 5 Ps 90-92
AUG 6 Prov 14-15
AUG 7 Ezek 43-48
AUG 8 John 1-2
AUG 9 2 Thes
AUG 10 Lev 25-27
AUG 11 1 Chr 1-4
AUG 12 Ps 93-95
AUG 13 Prov 16
AUG 14 Dan 1-6
AUG 15 John 3-4
AUG 16 1 Tim 1-3
AUG 17 Num 1-4
AUG 18 1 Chr 5-9
AUG 19 Ps 96-98
AUG 20 Prov 17-18
AUG 21 Dan 7-12
AUG 22 John 5-6
AUG 23 1 Tim 4-6
AUG 24 Num 5-8
AUG 25 1 Chr 10-14
AUG 26 Ps 99-101
AUG 27 Prov 19
AUG 28 Hosea 1-7
AUG 29 John 7-9
AUG 30 2 Tim 1-2
AUG 31 Num 9-12

This year’s Bible reading plan was borrowed from BibleReading.com. (To correspond with the 2009 year, we have included actual dates for your referral. You may choose to use the above site, instead.)

Pierce my heart for marriage

Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all…”

This month

desktopimageOur theme is about marriage this month, and we’ll include everything from choosing a spouse, to wedding hair and helping on the big day, to being a godly wife after we say the “I Do’s.” All of the volunteers have worked hard to put together the summer edition of the magazine, and we hope you’ve enjoyed our articles about career and college in June and July, and that you’ll also benefit from our marriage articles this month.

New Direction

When the idea for the magazine was formed in January 2008, Lisa had two children and I had one. We were both planning on homeschooling our children, but that seemed very far away. Since that time, we’ve both added an additional child to our families (her third son was born in May; my second daughter was born in July), plus we will begin homeschooling next month. We are much busier with our home and family lives now than we were when we began the magazine, and being managers of our homes needs to be our top priority (Titus 2:3-5).

We’ve also lost several of our teen writers to the busyness of school and jobs, and while we’ve added a few new writers, we’re still writing many of the articles ourselves each month. We’re also both becoming further and further removed from the teenage group as our families grow and our energy and time is directed toward being godly wives and mothers, so we’re finding it increasingly difficult to write relevant teen articles each month.

We do, however, love the ministry of an online magazine, and the amount of hits the site receives each day suggests that this ministry is reaching many people. The type of comments and e-mails we’ve received about the magazine leads us to believe that our largest audience is not the teen girl audience we were originally striving to reach, but instead the majority of our audience seems to be mothers and young women. And the more we try to attract teens (giveaways, dating articles, etc.), the more we seem to attract the women in our stage of life!

news2So, after much thought, prayer, and discussion, Lisa and I have decided that beginning on September 1, 2009, Pierce My Heart will change directions–we will still be an online magazine, but we will no longer be geared toward teens. We will instead change our format and our articles to reach a new target audience of stay-at-home Christian mothers. The new format will be simplified to make the magazine more flexible and less time consuming, so we can spend more time focusing on our families, and more time working on our own spiritual lives so that we can be the godly wives and mothers God wants us to be.

We will have a “Teen Scene” column on the magazine, which will include the majority of the articles for and by teens. We are planning on continuing this column as long as the teen writers choose to continue assisting in the new direction of this ministry.

The articles this month will still be geared toward our original target audience of young women, but you will notice changes to the overall look and format of the magazine, as we’re preparing to change things to better accommodate mothers of young children. These changes will happen gradually over the next two months, so we can have everything in place by the end of September to begin our new direction.

Your input

We would love to receive your input, thoughts, and suggestions of ideas, columns, or topics you’d like to see (or things you’d like to stop seeing) on this magazine in the future. You can either leave your thoughts in a comment below, or contact us with your suggestions.

Thank you for your continued support and encouragement as we begin a new chapter of our ministry with Pierce My Heart.

Davonne Parks

Desktop Image, August 2009

If you’d like to have our theme image on your desktop this month, simply click on “standard” or “wide-screen” underneath the photo, then right click on the image and select “set as background.” Note: laptops are generally wide-screen, and desktops are usually standard images.

Pierce my heart for marriage, Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all…”

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August 2009, Edited by Hannah Smith – Standard