Whose Approval?

jft21“Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Galatians 1:10

Whose approval do you seek? I have to admit, I’m a people pleaser. I don’t want people to be upset with me. I want them to like me. But recently, I’ve realized that the only One from Whom I need to seek approval is God. Ultimately, eternally, He is the only one whose opinion matters. I’ve known this to be true, but lately, I have realized how important it is to keep His approval foremost in my mind.

As it says in Galatians, I am a servant of Christ, and should therefore not still be seeking the approval of men. As you go about your life, think about whose servant you are. Consider the eternality of whose approval you are trying to win. Will it really matter if you always pleased your friends, employers, acquaintances? Or will it matter that you loved others while ultimately living to please only Him?

By Lisa Grimenstein

Happily Ever After

jft12I love fairytales. I love movies with happy endings, stories that conclude with “happily ever after,” and tales of true love. These types of stories may be “unrealistic” to some, but I thoroughly enjoy them…and I believe I now see why!

The Bible is like a love letter from God. We read plainly, “For God so loved the world…” in John 3:16, and, “…He loved us…” in 1 John 4:10; therefore we know that God loves us. If you get a handwritten letter––even a short card––in the mail, you feel appreciated and loved, don’t you? Well, God’s given you a whole Book (2 Timothy 3:16). In that Book, He tells us what obedience is, how we are saved, and how we can live with God and Jesus eternally one day.

Jesus, our Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6), died for us. He loved us so much––enough to give everything for us (Hebrews 2:17)––in order that we could be forgiven of our sins (1 John 4:10), and be given a home with Him some day (Mark 8:34; 1 Thessalonians 4:16-17).

Doesn’t this remind you of the beautiful fairytales we love so much? Well, guess what…it’s not a fairytale! We can live life knowing that He will return for us. How wonderful it is that we have such a Prince from God, with whom we can live “happily ever after” someday.

By Hannah Smith

Completing the Outfit: Giveaway

ss1“Does a maiden forget her jewelry, a bride her wedding ornaments?” (Jeremiah 2:32)

One size fits all––words we all love to hear. Whether it’s gold or silver, jeweled or not, it’s nice to know that there are some things in our wardrobe that will always fit. And there are few ways to add to or complete an outfit more easily or inexpensively than jewelry.

Whether an occasion calls for something casual and basic or a little more formal, there is an abundance of accessories to be found. While everyone has her own taste in jewelry, there are a few simple things to remember when accessorizing.

Accessorize and remove

Sometimes, especially if we’re new to accessorizing, we tend to overdo it. We figure that, when it comes to jewelry, we need one necklace, one pair of earrings, one bracelet, our watch, a ring. Remember that your jewelry should complement your outfit, not overwhelm it. Allow it to add some color and personality to your wardrobe without using it to make your ultimate statement. So, I’ve often heard it said to put on the jewelry you have planned and then remove one piece. This usually cuts down on any overdoing.

Don’t let your neck and ears compete

Some people have a problem when it comes to earrings and necklaces. They find a great, dangly pair of earrings that would go great with an outfit, and also a chunky necklace to wear with it. But when both pieces are worn together, they compete with one another. If you are wearing an attention-getting necklace, keep your earrings simple––gold or silver hoops or small studs. If you really love the way a pair of earrings looks with an outfit, wear a simple, complementing necklace with them, or skip the necklace altogether.

Distractingly ear-catching

ss2Although fun, playful bangles are popular right now, they can also be very distracting––not to look at, but to hear. Keep this in mind when accessorizing. If you’re going to be at school or church, or some other “quiet” location, don’t wear something––like bangles––that are going to be distractingly noisy every time you move. Save them for a fun day out with friends.

Draw the attention upward

One great thing about jewelry––specifically earrings and necklaces––is that it draws the focus upward, toward your face, and away from any areas you don’t want noticed. (Also, longer necklaces tend to slim the body because of the vertical lines they create.) Colorful necklaces and dangly earrings frame your face, making it more of a focal point. This is where we want others’ focus to be––on our face.

Start accessorizing!

Whether you’re hanging out with some girlfriends, dining with your husband, or attending a wedding, it’s always the perfect time to start accessorizing your wardrobe. Remember, though, that our beauty should not come from what we put on but by what is coming out of us (1 Peter 3:3). We are most beautiful when we are reflecting Christ through the Spirit in us.

“Then adorn yourself with glory and splendor, and clothe yourself in honor and majesty.” Job 40:10

Giveaway

ssnecklaceThis month, we’re giving away a necklace, perfect for the married or unmarried, or even as a shower gift for a special bride-to-be in your life. This heart-shaped necklace with the phrase “Love never fails” enscripted on it is a simple and perfect way to dress up any outfit, casual or not.

To enter the contest, please leave a comment by August 29 on this post telling us what your favorite piece of jewelry is, or a subject you’d like to see covered in a future Style Sense article.

We’ll announce the winner on August 31. Good luck!

By Lisa Grimenstein

Visit our Monthly Issues page to view all of our past themes, and visit our August 2009 page to read our entire current issue, in a blog-type format, about marriage.

Beat the Heat by Beading!

When it’s hot out, we often head inside for awhile to find something to keep ourselves busy. This month, for our Gifted Girls column, we are looking at jewelry. Making jewelry is a great way to stay busy and have fun in the summertime! Show younger girls in the congregation that they are special to you by making them bracelets. Bead a pair of earrings for a special role model woman in your life. There are tons of different colors, shapes, and sizes, so be creative! Here are some photos to get you inspired:

Made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Hannah Smith

Earrings made by Hannah Smith

Earrings made by Hannah Smith

Bracelets made by Hannah Smith

Bracelets made by Hannah Smith

Bracelet made by Davonne Parks

Bracelet made by Davonne Parks

For instructions on how to make your own beaded jewelry, search online, visit your local craft store, or go to beadage.net.

Coming Up

If you’ve gone on a beach vacation, or just played in a sandbox this summer, please submit a photo of your sand creations to Info @ PierceMyHeart . com (remove spaces) by August 29 for use in our Gifted Girls column next month!

By Hannah Smith

Congratulations: July Giveaway Winner

I apologize for the delay in posting the winner of July’s giveaway. My daughter decided to come three weeks early and was born on July 25, so I’ve been a little preoccupied this past week!

jft8The random winner of our bag of beauty supplies is Sarah (gal4birdz@)! You should have an e-mail from Pierce My Heart in your inbox. If not, please contact us within seven days to claim your prize.

Thanks to everyone who participated in this contest by leaving comments on our article. If you didn’t win this month, please try again in August, because we have another fun giveaway coming up.

Congratulations, Sarah! We hope you enjoy your new beauty products!

– Davonne Parks

Pierce my heart for marriage

Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all…”

This month

desktopimageOur theme is about marriage this month, and we’ll include everything from choosing a spouse, to wedding hair and helping on the big day, to being a godly wife after we say the “I Do’s.” All of the volunteers have worked hard to put together the summer edition of the magazine, and we hope you’ve enjoyed our articles about career and college in June and July, and that you’ll also benefit from our marriage articles this month.

New Direction

When the idea for the magazine was formed in January 2008, Lisa had two children and I had one. We were both planning on homeschooling our children, but that seemed very far away. Since that time, we’ve both added an additional child to our families (her third son was born in May; my second daughter was born in July), plus we will begin homeschooling next month. We are much busier with our home and family lives now than we were when we began the magazine, and being managers of our homes needs to be our top priority (Titus 2:3-5).

We’ve also lost several of our teen writers to the busyness of school and jobs, and while we’ve added a few new writers, we’re still writing many of the articles ourselves each month. We’re also both becoming further and further removed from the teenage group as our families grow and our energy and time is directed toward being godly wives and mothers, so we’re finding it increasingly difficult to write relevant teen articles each month.

We do, however, love the ministry of an online magazine, and the amount of hits the site receives each day suggests that this ministry is reaching many people. The type of comments and e-mails we’ve received about the magazine leads us to believe that our largest audience is not the teen girl audience we were originally striving to reach, but instead the majority of our audience seems to be mothers and young women. And the more we try to attract teens (giveaways, dating articles, etc.), the more we seem to attract the women in our stage of life!

news2So, after much thought, prayer, and discussion, Lisa and I have decided that beginning on September 1, 2009, Pierce My Heart will change directions–we will still be an online magazine, but we will no longer be geared toward teens. We will instead change our format and our articles to reach a new target audience of stay-at-home Christian mothers. The new format will be simplified to make the magazine more flexible and less time consuming, so we can spend more time focusing on our families, and more time working on our own spiritual lives so that we can be the godly wives and mothers God wants us to be.

We will have a “Teen Scene” column on the magazine, which will include the majority of the articles for and by teens. We are planning on continuing this column as long as the teen writers choose to continue assisting in the new direction of this ministry.

The articles this month will still be geared toward our original target audience of young women, but you will notice changes to the overall look and format of the magazine, as we’re preparing to change things to better accommodate mothers of young children. These changes will happen gradually over the next two months, so we can have everything in place by the end of September to begin our new direction.

Your input

We would love to receive your input, thoughts, and suggestions of ideas, columns, or topics you’d like to see (or things you’d like to stop seeing) on this magazine in the future. You can either leave your thoughts in a comment below, or contact us with your suggestions.

Thank you for your continued support and encouragement as we begin a new chapter of our ministry with Pierce My Heart.

Davonne Parks

Desktop Image, August 2009

If you’d like to have our theme image on your desktop this month, simply click on “standard” or “wide-screen” underneath the photo, then right click on the image and select “set as background.” Note: laptops are generally wide-screen, and desktops are usually standard images.

Pierce my heart for marriage, Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all…”

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August 2009, Edited by Hannah Smith – Standard

Backyard sports!

friends1Tons of fun can come out of playing backyard sports—football/flag football, ultimate frisbee, wiffle ball, tennis, volleyball, basketball, soccer, and even ultimate football. Each sport has its own set of rules, own way of having fun, and own techniques in playing.

Playing the game

Planning when to play the game is the most important part. Most of us don’t want to play wiffle ball or football outside in the snow . The many places you can play theses sports are at graduation parties, church drop-ins, birthday parties, or just whenever you want to play. When deciding which game to play you need to check the weather. If it’s beautiful outside you could play any of the games I listed above, and if it rains or snows you can play certain games inside, like volleyball or basketball.

Safety

Unlike high school football, backyard football doesn’t involve wearing gear like shoulder pads or leg pads; instead, you only have your clothes to protect you from the tackles. When it’s chilly outside you may want extra layers, like an underarmor shirt underneath your regular t-shirt, or long sleeves. If it’s hot outside you’ll want to wear a simple tee shirt and a pair of shorts.

Picking the team

When picking who you want on your team, don’t just choose your best friend. Choose other people to be your teammates so you can get to know them better. Remember to keep a good attitude–regardless of whether you win or lose, everyone should be a good sport and enjoy playing the game while growing closer together.

By Michelle Jane

Last chance for entries!

Bracelet created by Hannah SmithToday is the last day to submit photos of jewelry you’ve made for use in our Gifted Girls article next month. You can send pictures to Info @ PierceMyHeart . com (remove spaces).

This is also the last day to enter to win our July giveaway. The winner, who will be announced on July 31, will receive a bag of beauty supplies.

If you have any questions, please let us know, and we will respond to you as quickly as possible.

– Davonne Parks

The Eyes Have It

Ecclesiastes 11:7: “Light is sweet, and it pleases the eyes to see the sun.”

One size does not always fit all. You know that to be true about clothing, but it also applies to other things. With the more pleasant weather, many of us are venturing outdoors. And you may be realizing that it’s time to update an essential part of your summer wardrobe––sunglasses. But before rushing out to the store to grab the cutest, trendiest pair, consider which ones will best work for you.

Comfort matters

Vera Wang rectangular sunglasses, available at Kohl’sObviously, one of the first things to consider when buying a new pair of sunglasses is comfort. I’ve bought many pairs that were perfect in the store, but when I got home and started wearing them, they were awful. They were too tight, giving me a headache. Or they seemed to sit crookedly on my face, bothering me the entire time I wore them. Even though I don’t pay a lot for sunglasses, if they are not comfortable to me, they are never a good deal. Make sure you spend a decent amount of time wearing the glasses in the store to get the best idea of how they’ll fit. Wear them home with the tags on so that if you notice that they start to get uncomfortable during the ride home, you can take them back. If you’ve already removed the tags and find yourself cringing every time you have to put them on, offer to give them to a friend who might have better luck with them.

Price matters

Yes, there are $150 pairs of sunglasses out there that are great. And stylish. And come in a cute case. And cook dinner. But, consider how worth it they are if you accidentally sit on them in your car. Or lose them at the mall. I have friends who are constantly ruining sunglasses by leaving them on the seat of their car and then sitting on them later. It’s much easier parting with the $10 sunglasses than it is the $100 pair that was so necessary just weeks before.

Style (kinda) matters

I say “kinda” because, while there are certain sunglasses that look better with specific face shapes, you can certainly buy whichever glasses you like best. Style might matter to you, but it shouldn’t be our ultimate objective. But since it’s nice to have a place to start, here are some tips for shopping for sunglasses for your face shape.

Start by looking in a mirror. Using a lipstick or lip liner pencil, trace the shape of your face. You should come up with an oval, circle, square, or triangle.

If your face is oval:

Congratulations! You have a very versatile face shape. More sunglasses look good with this shape than any others. You could go with round or square frames. Just make sure the size of the frames is proportionate to your face size. Meaning: If you have a small face, don’t buy oversized frames, or your face will get lost behind them.

Sonoma oval sunglasses, available at Kohl’s

Sonoma oval sunglasses, available at Kohl’s

If your face is round:

To minimize the fullness of a very round face, opt for frames that are more angular. Square frames or ones with straight lines are your best bet.

Vera Wang rectangular sunglasses, available at Kohl’s

Vera Wang rectangular sunglasses, available at Kohl’s

If your face is square:

Opposite rule applies here: To soften a square, angular face and jawline, go with frames that are slightly curved. A square or rectangular frame will make your face look harsh.

Merona small oval sunglasses, available at Target

Merona small oval sunglasses, available at Target

If your face is triangular:

This face shape is defined by a broader forehead and narrow jawline and chin. Go with thinner frames to balance the bottom part of your face. Avoid heavy, thick frames, or very bold colors.

Adi Designs frameless sunglasses, available at Target

Adi Designs frameless sunglasses, available at Target

Time to go shopping!

For more on sunglasses for your face shape, search online or visit Frames Direct.

Having a friend along will help you to judge which sunglasses work best with your face. Don’t just consider frame size and shape. The color of the lenses is also important when thinking about your complexion. So, grab a tactfully honest friend and head out to accessorize your face.

By Lisa Grimenstein