The Road Not Taken

The Road Not Taken
By Robert Frost

jft7aTwo roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Our preacher was giving a short lesson before Bible class on a recent Wednesday night. I’d been thinking about my upcoming test to receive my driver’s license. Would the test be hard? What if I failed? What if tomorrow never comes?…Well, what if? I should have been patient and let God handle it all, but once again, I was getting in my own way. I shoved my license concerns out of my mind and listened to Hoby speak. One of the verses he mentioned was Proverbs 16:17: “The highway of the upright is to depart from evil; He who keeps his way preserves his soul.” Now you know the word “highway” had to catch my attention. Coincidence that Hoby used that verse, allowed me think about it, and apply it to my life right now? Um, doubt it. That’s God working right there.

Thursday afternoon came. Three o’clock license appointment. Passed! So that was it? I had my license; it was over. Now, I’m free (with a few restrictions) to go to town and eat with my friends, to pick one up for a youth activity, to see a movie, to just ride. . . . But I got so worked up in the time leading up to it. Why? Because it was something I couldn’t get yet, something that others had, that I wanted so badly! What does that sound like?

jft7bYou know, Satan makes sin look enticing. He tells us, “Everyone else is doing it, you don’t want to miss out! Hurry!” We want to be a part of it so badly, until …we are. We do what everyone else does. We watch those movies that we know we shouldn’t watch. We say those words. We listen to those songs. We put things into our bodies that could destroy us mentally, physically, and spiritually. What happens after we’re doing it? That’s it. There’s nothing left to long for, to want so badly. We’re just stuck in a rut, alone, wanting a way out, to find something bigger and better to live for. Depressing, huh?

Earlier you read, “The highway of the upright is to depart from evil…” When Satan tempts you, depart; take God’s highway! He provides us a way of escape every time we are tempted (1 Cor. 10:13). When you start to lust after earthly things, run to God. Study His Word. Guard yourself with His teachings. Talk to Him in prayer; He knows when you are weak! By doing these things, it might also be easier to teach those who have not been saved. We have to (but we also need to want to) deny ourselves and our earthly lusts, seek Him first, and set our minds above (Colossians 3:2). Without Him, nothing else we do matters!

So, here I am. New license, a Christian girl. I can either drive through life’s highway, looking for temporary stops and pleasures on earth, and end up ruining my life, losing it all forever … or, I can depart from evil, seek Him, deny myself, focus on my end and eternal destination, and allow Him to preserve my soul forever. Now think back if you can; what did the speaker of that poem do? He took the road less traveled by. What are Christians to do? Enter by the narrow gate, although there are few who go in by it (Matthew 7:13-14). I believe I will choose the narrow road. There, I know I am never alone. I know I always have a Friend who keeps me going, lifts me up, strengthens me, never lets me forget where I’m headed, and loves me. The road each of us chooses can make all the difference. . . .

. . . I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

By Hannah Smith

Instantly Changed: The Boy

extra8This true story was submitted to us anonymously, and will appear in several parts throughout the summer, in our Heart to Heart column.

Think about the choices you make now because one night of sinful indiscretion can change the course you will take and may alter your life forever.

I didn’t give myself a chance for my life to start, or to really know what I wanted in a career or in life, before it was altered after getting pregnant by my boyfriend when I was in high school. We ended up getting married––a marriage that should never have taken place, but one that lasted over twenty years and ended in divorce.

I loved children and homemaking, so I had additional children and stayed at home to raise them, which I never regretted doing. In fact, I don’t regret my life and I like who I am, even with the battle scars of life that I carry. I have overcome trials and have become a much stronger, godlier woman.

I was young, shy, naïve, and very innocent until I met this boy, “Frank,” in my early years of high school. Even as a young girl, I was very knowledgeable about the Bible and I was raised in a Christian family. I was by every definition a “good girl.” When I met Frank, he was very charming, but not at all the type of boy I was used to. My dad was always a very gentle and calm man. Frank was just the opposite. He was loud, he cussed, was dominating and very forceful.

Why the connection was made, I’ll never know. I think that I had a low self-esteem for some reason. He was so dominant that he overpowered me. Quite honestly, I let it happen because I didn’t know how to stand up to him. I didn’t like the way he always yelled at people and got into physical fights, lied, and flirted with other girls, and he was really stuck on himself. He didn’t act the way the Christian boys did at church, but somehow I was drawn in.

He asked me to “go with him.” I wasn’t even allowed to date until I was 16, and at that time I was only 14 years old. I was just so happy that a boy was paying attention to me, so I said yes. It wasn’t long before all the kissing and petting started. Later on, we had sex on a fairly regular basis.

There were many times that I didn’t want to do those things––I was a “good girl” after all. Frank was persistent, testing my “love” if I didn’t participate. After a while I wanted sex just as much as he did. That’s the problem with sin. At first you feel so guilty, but each time you give in to sin, it gets easier and easier. I mistook sex for love. I figured that since we were having sex, then that meant he loved me.

extra7I still battled within myself about having premarital sex. I knew God wouldn’t be proud of me, but somehow Frank would make me feel it was okay because we would be married someday––his idea, not mine. Deep within me, I never felt that we would be married; he just wasn’t the type of boy I liked. He would misquote scripture and twist it to justify having sex with me. I went along with it, and even tried to convince myself that he was right, even while I knew deep down that he was wrong.

During this time, Frank came to my church on his own. A few months later, he was baptized. The boys from church would invite him to their homes, and afterward, Frank would tell me that those Christian boys were just like all other boys and that they were disgusting. It was Frank’s way of manipulating my mind against all Christian boys, because at one time I had told Frank that I wasn’t ever going to marry him, but that I would be marrying a Christian boy someday. In his mind, he had to turn me against them. Frank told me that he was the only person that I could trust. He really knew how to work me, that’s for sure, so I believed anything and everything he told me.

Since I was disillusioned about the boys from church, I let myself believe that Frank and I would be married someday. Then I felt justified in having sex with him. I would hear rumors about Frank having sex with other girls or of him kissing them. Some of the girls would act “all knowing” when they were around him. I sensed that there were secrets between them. When I would confront Frank about the rumors, he would say, “Oh people are just jealous of us and they are trying to break us up”! I always felt guilty for doubting him.

My parents didn’t think he was a boy I should be hanging out with, so they forbade me to date him. Over the course of three years in high school, we snuck around to see each other. I know my parents did what they thought was best for me, and even though it doesn’t excuse my behavior, I wish they would have let me date him, because then I wouldn’t have tried to prove to them what a “great” guy he was. I think I could have been honest with myself about him. Instead, I was continually trying to make him look good, and as a consequence, I didn’t deal with reality. Don’t misunderstand me; I don’t blame my parents. They just did what they felt was the right thing to do. I just wasn’t assertive enough to end my relationship with Frank for good.

Check back next month to read part two.

– Anonymous

If I perish, I perish

jft2Are you familiar with this line from Scripture? It was said by Queen Esther (Esther 4:16) when she determined to approach her husband, the king, to plead for the deliverance of the Jews––even though she knew that to approach the king without being summoned meant almost certain death. Ultimately, she chose to be obedient to God, regardless of the possible result.

How often do we disobey God, giving the excuse that the result would be more than we could handle? Or that He wouldn’t mind our disobedience because He wouldn’t really want us to face the possible outcome? But disobedience is disobedience. God doesn’t take pleasure in our suffering, but He tells us that we will suffer. 1 Peter 3:17: “It is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.”

We may not be called upon to suffer the extreme consequence of death in obedience to the Lord, but there are many other “sufferings” we attempt to avoid, which results in our disobedience. Let’s have the obedient attitude of Esther, knowing that to please and obey God is more important than trying to avoid discomfort in this world.

If I lose a friend, I lose a friend.
If they laugh at me, they laugh at me.
If my heart gets broken, my heart gets broken.
If they call me intolerant, they call me intolerant.
If people hate me, people hate me.

If I suffer in obedience to Him, I am blessed.

1 Peter 3:14: “But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed.”

By Lisa Grimenstein

Happy Father’s Day!

jftSeveral of the Pierce My Heart staff members wrote short tributes to our fathers last year, which can be read here.

If you need a last minute idea of something special to do for Father’s Day, read this article.

Our fathers, and father figures, work so hard to take care of us and protect us.   This Father’s Day, let’s show them the appreciation they deserve by doing something kind for them and taking the time to tell them how much they mean to us.

Matthew 5:16 “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven. ”

– Davonne Parks

Busy Schedule: Healthy Meals

cc2As you begin a summer job, an internship, or a career, it is easy to find yourself eating convenient meals at fast food restaurants or vending machines. You’re going to need to eat homemade meals, or you’ll end up spending a good portion of your income on eating out, and you probably won’t be very fond of the pounds you’ll gain as a result. Plus, the time you would have spent going to a restaurant and ordering food can now be spent doing what breaks are meant for: taking a break.

We’ve recently had a couple of articles about healthy alternatives to favorite foods, including what to order in fast food restaurants if you do occasionally need to eat out, and tips for packing healthy lunches, so be sure to check those out for more information and ideas.

Quick food prep tips

Break it down yourself. Stay away from pre-packaged meals, which tend to be packed with unhealthy preservatives and have a higher price per ounce. Instead, buy a large jar of applesauce and fill small re-usable containers at home, or put pretzels into sandwich baggies instead of purchasing the food already split into serving-size portions.

Keep cold foods cold. Wrap cold food in aluminum foil to keep it cold on hot days. Once you receive a paycheck, consider purchasing an insulated lunch box. This will save time (no need for foil wrapping), money (no foil costs), and will help the environment (less waste).

Pack the night before. If you don’t like to spend time packing a lunch in the morning, just pack it the night before and keep it in the fridge so it’ll be ready for you in the possible rush of morning.

Meals

Breakfast (add fresh fruit and a glass of milk to the side of any of these for a well-balanced meal that will keep you full until lunch):

Toast. Whole grain toast with peanut butter is a great way to pack the grains and protein in before leaving the house.cc1

Eggs. If you hard-boil them in advance, you won’t have to cook while you’re getting ready for work.

Oatmeal. This will keep you full for hours. Make with milk instead of water for a richer texture, and add mashed fruit to it for natural flavor.

Cereal. Skip the sugary Lucky Charms and Cocoa Puffs, and opt for something healthier, like Cheerios or Raisin Bran.

Fruit. If all else fails, and you’re running behind, at least grab a banana or an apple and a bottle of water on the way out the door. The water will help you stay hydrated throughout the morning, and the fruit will keep you from getting so hungry before lunch that you end up wasting money and calories at the vending machine.

Lunch (add fresh fruit, raw veggies, and milk to the side of these):

Peanut butter and jelly. Again, use whole grain bread, and try using a fruit preserve instead of a jelly. The flavor is amazing, and fruit is actually the main ingredient!

Lunch meat. Use a whole grain sub or hamburger bun, or a pita pocket, then fill with your favorite veggies and white lunch meats. Use mustard as a healthy alternative to mayonnaise.

Left-overs. If you are lucky enough to have a microwave available at work, take some of last night’s dinner with you and heat it up!

Remember

As you work, strive to glorify God with your attitude, and trust in Him with your future.

Proverbs 28:19, 25: “He who tills his land will have plenty of food, But he who follows empty pursuits will have poverty in plenty. An arrogant man stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the LORD will prosper.”

By Davonne Parks

The Heart

jft5We’re told in Luke 6:45 that “the good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.”

This verse may look a little confusing at first glance, but the meaning is actually very straightforward. To show you what I mean, I’ll break it down into three parts.

1) “The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good.” That means that if someone has a good heart, they will speak good things. Pure-hearted people say good things about others, and they’re kind.

2) “The evil man out of the evil treasure [of his heart] brings forth what is evil.” When a person has sin in her heart, she will say bad things about other people, or talk about immoral activities (including movies or TV shows), because that’s what she’s filling her heart with.

3) “For his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.” This sums up the first and second part of the verse. Think of it like this: I talk about what I fill my heart with. Are you speaking of pure things––godly things, or are you struggling with angry outbursts and gossip? What do you allow to fill your heart?

As we live our lives to please Him, let’s pray that our hearts are filled only with things that are pleasing to Him, which will cause our actions and words to be pure as well (Philippians 4:8).

By Davonne Parks

It’s Time for Bible Class

hh2“From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” Ephesians 4:16

Summer’s here and that means two probable things––you’re out of school, and it’s VBS time! These things offer the perfect opportunity to help out in your church body. It’s important, as mentioned in the verse above, that each part of the body does its work, so that the entire body can function. That includes you!

Vacation Bible School

If your church is participating in a Vacation Bible School program, there are many things you can do to be involved and help out. Most likely, there will be a volunteer sign-up or an announcement asking for helpers and teachers. This is your chance to speak up. VBS offers many different areas for any gifting you may have. If you love to teach, volunteer to teach a class, or team-teach with someone else. Teachers are often needed, or at least volunteer to be a helper in one of the classes.

If teachers and assistants aren’t needed, there are plenty other things you can do to help out with VBS. Offer to make or bring refreshments. Cookies, brownies, and Rice Krispie treats are always a big hit––and easy to make. Provide some drinks for snack time, and then volunteer to stay at the table to pour and serve.

Vacation Bible School often means several other activities also, so discuss your ideas with the person heading up your VBS this summer. Love crafts? Organize a special craft project to go with the theme of VBS. Enjoy acting? Do a Bible character puppet show or skit with some friends for the younger children. If your VBS ends the week with a fun night, you could volunteer to organize several games for the kids, or to set up a face painting table if you’re artistic. Whatever God has gifted you with, use it!

hh1Finally, if all else is taken care of, volunteer to do what everyone else will certainly want to avoid––cleanup. Sometimes these forgotten, mundane tasks are the ones that leave the biggest impressions on others. Offer to clean up after VBS is over. Gather trash, clean up the kitchen, vacuum crumbs and glitter. Even if no one else gives you credit, remember that you are doing it to glorify God (1 Peter 2:12) and ultimately, that’s all that matters.

Bible Class

No VBS? Ask some of the teachers if you could help them with Bible school classes. They may enjoy a break for the summer while you take over the class. Or they may appreciate something as simple as you helping them to prepare Bible memory games or crafts that go with the lesson each week.

It’s important that we don’t just sit back and wait for others to volunteer for things that need to be done in the body, or wait for someone to approach us for help. We need to take notice and offer to do the things which we are able to do, so that we can help the church grow by using the talents with which God has gifted us.

In addition to helping, also start noticing when others in the body are doing body-work, and acknowledge it. Let them know how much you appreciate that they took the initiative to get things done. “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

By Lisa Grimenstein

GIFTS: Giveaway

mm2Since we’re talking about careers this month, I thought it’d be appropriate to mention a girl who wrote an entire book when she was sixteen! Whether or not this girl decides to pursue writing throughout her adult life, she still used her talents to glorify God at a young age (1 Timothy 4:12).

GIFTS, written by Hannah Colley, is short for Girls in Fellowship and Team Study and covers many areas of Christianity. Her book is specifically geared toward teen girls, and has thirteen chapters with questions and project suggestions at the end of each chapter, so it can be used for individual learning, or for group study in a quarter-long Bible class.

Chapters include

1) What’s Love Got To Do With It?
2) No Turning Back
3) Unwrap the Present!
4) Who’s In Charge?!
5) Sticks and Stones
6) Fashion Tips 101: What NOT to Wear
7) The Right Moves
8 ) Life Savings
9) Hello?! It’s Just Entertainment
10) The Real High
11) Morality or Politics?
12) Here and Now
13) The Gift Exchange

These chapters cover everything from abortion and homosexuality to prayer and school dances. The topics are presented in a no-nonsense, easy-to-read format, and Colley’s beliefs are backed up with scriptural support.

mm11Where to buy

This is one book you won’t find on Amazon or in most book stores––to purchase GIFTS, visit the Colley family’s website, and scroll down on the page until you get to Hannah’s book.

Giveaway

Colley Books is generously giving away one copy of GIFTS to a reader! All you have to do is leave a comment below by Monday, June 29, 2009, letting us know your favorite Christian book (aside from the Bible!), or a book or movie you’d like to see reviewed, and you’ll be entered in our drawing.

Comments are moderated, so they may take a day or so to appear. Make sure to include a valid e-mail address in your information (this will not appear in the post). The winner will be announced on June 30 and will be e-mailed with simple instructions on how to claim this prize. The winner must contact us back within seven days of our initial contact, or the book will go to someone else.

What really matters

If you want to strengthen your faith, learn more about God’s Word regarding today’s issues, or need to teach (or recommend topics for) a teen girls’ Bible class, this book will be a great tool to use. As Hannah says in her preface, “In 100 years, it won’t matter if I bought my clothes from American Eagle. It won’t matter if I was popular in high school. It won’t matter if I saw all the latest movies. The only thing that will matter is that I was a faithful Christian. True success is simply living my life and going to heaven.”

By Davonne Parks

Visit our Monthly Issues page to view all of our past themes, and visit our June 2009 page to read our entire current issue about choosing a career.

Handling Stress

ts2Feeling stressed out seems inevitable at times. There are so many factors in any one person’s life that what stresses one person out, may not stress another. And since this month’s focus is on careers, I thought this would be the perfect time to talk about stress. For most, the two seem to go hand in hand.

My personal experience with workplace stress is not much different from others. As many of you know from my other columns, I held steady employment from the time I was 16. After my husband and I had been married for six months, I took what was supposed to be a temporary job at a busy physician’s office. I was so excited. I looked forward to getting out of the house again and making my own money. At first, everything went smoothly. The first two weeks everyone was nice and I really enjoyed what I did. But the more things settled in, the more stress I had.

I always kept my chin up and just did the best I could with the situation I had been given. But many nights when I got home my husband seemed to receive the brunt of my aggravation and stress. I was grumpy and tired. And to add to the stress, three months after I took the job, I became pregnant with a difficult pregnancy. There were moments when my husband and I talked about me quitting my job. But I am not a quitter, and with a baby on the way, the money was needed. So, I decided it was time to disconnect myself from stress.

The best stress reliever I got was one day as I was leaving the office. It had been the most stressful day yet. I sat in my car crying after work and realized that perhaps this situation needed more than me or an office manager or a doctor. I prayed. If God wanted me to keep this job, then I needed to turn to Him to help me through it. After my prayer, I turned the music on, rolled the windows down, and drove.

That time every day allowed me to disconnect myself from my stress at work and the stress of my personal life. Even though it was only 30 minutes, there were days where I craved those 30 minutes of solace. The job was still stressful, but I know God put me there for a reason.

ts1There are many things we can do to “disconnect” from stress no matter what the stress is.

  1. Deep cleansing breaths––Yes, I’m sure you’ve heard it before: in through the nose, out through the mouth. I recommend three to five of these before continuing in a stressful situation. It just helps your heart rate slow a little so that you do not become so agitated.
  2. Music––If you are stressed out, find some good, clean music and a chair and just listen, not thinking about the stress.
  3. Take a time out––Time for yourself will allow you to re-evaluate the situation and perhaps come up with a solution that you previously overlooked.
  4. Pray––alone. Find a place where it is just you. No one will interrupt, no one will listen in. Just a place where you can talk to God and let Him know how much you need Him and His guidance and that you trust Him.

Stress can come in many different shapes or forms. Some of us get stressed out over big issues and others allow small things to stress them out. We also need to remember that, often, when we’re stressed, it’s because we’re not fully casting our cares on God, and not trusting Him to take care of us during our difficult times (Matthew 6:25-34). No matter what size our stress comes in, it is never too big or too small to ask God to help us. He may not always lead us to the answer we wanted, but He knows what is best.

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” Matthew 7:7-8

By Sarah Ancheta