Delightful Dining: The People

cc1In keeping with our theme of service this month, we’re going to have a five-part series about serving others with a meal. We’re told in 1 Peter 4:10 that, “As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another…” Whether we can cook well or not, we can use our gifts to help serve this meal!

We’re going to start the week off by talking about enlisting help from others and inviting the guests; we’ll continue into how to plan the meal, how to prepare the host’s home, and the proper way to serve company. Then we’ll close off the week with a few suggestions for entertainment, as well as offer full menu suggestions and recipe links.

The upcoming lists and suggestions can be used by everyone involved in the planning, and volunteers can choose different responsibilities from the lists to complete. It may be helpful to print several copies for, or send links to, the other volunteers so they can have a reference during the planning process.

People Planning

Enlist help from others. Maybe your family would like to serve a meal together, or maybe a group of friends (or just one other friend) would like to be involved. Let others know your idea, and don’t turn anyone down who expresses an interest in helping. Also, be sensitive to other people’s financial needs––if someone wants to help, but can’t contribute financially, warmly accept their offer to help and tell them not to worry about the money.

Choose a place. Your group can pick the most appropriate house for the occasion––maybe someone has a large kitchen, or a big dining room table. Take advantage of that if it’s okay with their parents! If everyone has small spaces, don’t let that stop you––you can borrow a card table and chairs from someone or lay out a picnic blanket on the floor for younger guests. If the weather is nice, have an outdoor dinner, setting up card tables or picnic tables.

Set a tentative date. Tentatively set a specific date and time, but have a few possible dates in mind that will work for your group. This will allow some flexibility when talking to the potential guests in case most of them aren’t available on your first date choice.

cc2Designate jobs. There are plenty of jobs available that don’t include cooking! An artistic group member can plan on setting the dinner table or decorating the dessert. Someone who loves to talk on the phone could call to invite the guests. An organized person can manage everyone helping to make sure all needed areas are taken care of, and they could make to-do and grocery lists. The shopper of the group could pick up the groceries from the store, and the person who loves math can figure out how much everyone owes so one person isn’t stuck with most of the bill, or which store to shop at to get the best deals. No matter what everyone’s talent is, if you think creatively, you can use those talents to help with this event.

Plan a guest list. Allow your group to have input on this so you can all decide who to invite together. Keep this simple, and invite somebody who wouldn’t expect it. If there’s a lady at church who often does things for others without reciprocation, invite her (and her husband, if she’s married). Or you can invite an elderly couple, or someone who’s spouse has passed away. Maybe a neighbor lives alone and would love an evening of fellowship. Keep the guest list fairly small (four to eight people is a good amount), but make sure to include everyone in their household––if you invite an elder and his wife, also invite any children who are still living at home.

Finalize the date and time. The phone person can call around to tell all guests and helpers the exact date and time to be marked on their calendars.

Exchange numbers. Make sure the guests have your phone number, and you have theirs, so you can contact each other if any plans change. It may also be helpful to make a phone number sheet with all of the volunteers’ names and numbers to copy and pass around to the group who’s serving (a great job for the organizational person!).

Coming up

Later, we’ll discuss other aspects of planning this dinner. You can start planning now by following the “people planning” list, and continue later with the details that will follow. Enjoy serving Christ by serving others!

By Davonne Parks

Baking!

Gifted Girls is featuring baking this month, so we’re posting photos, and linking to recipes, of things we’ve baked and cooked. It’s so easy to serve others with food (Matthew 25:34-40)––you can just cook something in two small pans instead of one large pan, or double a recipe, and take half to someone in need, whether you’re making a simple dessert from a box, or a fancy dinner.

Things we’ve made
Click on photos to be directed to recipes.

Baked Apple Pancake - Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Baked Apple Pancake - Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Ultimate Brownies – Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Ultimate Brownies – Made by Davonne and Lily Parks

Sugar Cookies – Made by Carol Gartman and Davonne and Lily Parks (recipe not available)

Sugar Cookies – Made by Carol Gartman and Davonne and Lily Parks (recipe not available)

Peanut Butter Cookies – Made by Nathan and Lily Parks

Peanut Butter Cookies – Made by Nathan and Lily Parks

Your turn

Click on a link above, browse our Cooking Corner, do an online search for a recipe you’d like to try, or open up a recipe book. Once you find something that strikes your fancy, check to see if you have most or all of the ingredients, shop for what you don’t have, then start cooking! You may just discover a skill and interest you didn’t even know you had (1 Corinthians 7:7b).

Next month

Next month is the start of our special summer edition of the magazine, and in honor of that, we’re going to feature bedroom and household decorations. If you’ve made something for your home (picture frames, pottery, pillows, wall art, paintings, etc.), send us a photo! You can e-mail all entries to Info @ PierceMyHeart .com (remove spaces).

By Davonne Parks

10% off Bathing Suits – Last Day!

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– Davonne Parks

What If?

jft2a“’If’ is a big word,” was the reply I received in a text message from an acquaintance, upon my asking of different “what if” statements. I stubbornly hit reply, ready to come back with something clever, because I was frustrated. Then, I paused. I canceled the reply, and reread the message. “If” is a big word … Something struck me each time I re-evaluated it. I’m doubtful the person meant much by it, but the statement has embedded itself into my thoughts, and often comes alive again.

More often than not, I get anxious about “what ifs.” No matter the occasion, I can always find something to “what if.” It’s not that I am a pessimist (far from it); it’s simply that I want to prepare myself for not-so-good outcomes or instances. What if I don’t pass chemistry? What if I never find a good husband? What if something happens to my parents? We could what if ourselves all day long! Although I still let these thoughts creep in at times, I strive to give my cares to Him, and let Him take all my worries away (1 Peter 5:6-7).

It’s human nature to worry, but because we are under God’s care, we have no reason to worry! Nothing good comes from worrying (Matthew 6:27), and we can go to God, in prayer, with all of our troubles (Philippians 4:6).

So then, what if we tell our concerns to Him, stop worrying, and focus on doing the work of a Christian––for Him––instead? We are told that “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard [our] hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:6b). As we think of peaceful things, many of us imagine a beach with calm waves, a wooded area surrounded by wildflowers…or, even waking up on a snow day and realizing we are out of school! Each of us has different things that give us a sense of happiness and security. But if we allow God to take complete control, the peace we will receive is so awesome and powerful that we cannot fully comprehend it. God is truly so good.

Don’t stress; don’t worry––just take each day He gives you, let Him take control, and find true peace in Him!

By Hannah Smith

Study Party

friends2Tests and finals can often be very stressful, and one of the best things we can do to help relieve the pressure of the upcoming tests is to be prepared. A fun way to do that is to host a study party, so we can serve our classmates (1 Peter 4:10), and hopefully learn something new in the process. I’m going to give you a few study party tips and suggestions, then you can adapt them to meet the needs of your own study group.

Study Games

Charades. Your group can take turns acting out the people and events that will be on the test.

Jeopardy. The judge announces a problem that the contestants have to write on a piece of paper and figure out the answer to. (This works great for math tests.) The first person with the correct answer gets a point, and the person with the most points at the end of the game wins (although everybody who learned during this game is a winner!).

Popcorn. The first person reads a few paragraphs; then they randomly pick the next person to read. Make sure to be fair in choosing new readers! This continues until the entire reading assignment has been completed, and a discussion can follow to make sure everyone understands the content. Extra tip: Pay special attention to the definitions of words in bold – they’re likely to show up on the test!

Rhyme. Remember difficult facts by making up chants, rhymes, or one-line jokes that will jog your memory.

Remember: When playing study games make sure you actually pay attention to what you’re supposed to be learning and make sure to thoroughly study what will be on the test.

Snacks

friends1Picking out the best snack for your study party can be tricky, so make sure to keep it simple! Have everyone bring their favorite snack to make things easier on you, but have a few of your own items on hand. You could browse through our Cooking Corner articles for some inspiration, as well as look over the following ideas.

Multi-part cereal. Any cereal that has different food items in it is a fun choice, because every bite has a new taste.

Chex Mix. This can be purchased pre-made at most grocery stores, or you could make your own out of chex cereal, peanuts, cheetos, and pretzels.

Popcorn. It’s so easy to make––all you have to do is pop a bag in the microwave and wait.

Fruit and veggie trays. These will help keep energy up and calories down when the munchies hit hard.

Ice water. Sugary drinks like sodas and kool-aid will give energy for a little while, but that energy will quickly drop, leaving everyone more tired than they would have been without the sugar boosts. Consider having drink mixes like Crystal Light so people can add a little low-calorie flavor to the water.

Outside-the-party tips

Pay attention in class. This is where a good grade starts. If you have a difficult time focusing on or remembering facts about certain subjects, take notes during class. This will help you to stay focused during the class, and will help you to recall and look back on important information after class.

Complete your homework and other class assignments each day. Once you fall behind, it’s very difficult to catch up again, and one study session or unhealthy all-nighter isn’t going to make up for a semester’s worth of missed work. It’s much better to stay caught up; then you’ll only need to brush up on your facts before test days. Plus, when you’re always caught up, a pop quiz will never leave you in a panic!

Learn to budget your time. It takes a lot of self-discipline to start studying for a test two weeks in advance, but if you can pace yourself, you’ll learn and retain more information––and you’ll be able to get much-needed rest the night before the test because you won’t need a last-minute cramming session.

extra9Eat a healthy breakfast. Skipping breakfast or filling up on junk will deprive your body of the nutrients it needs to function at its best, and will leave you tired and foggy-minded. This can make even the most prepared students scrambling their tired, hungry brains for facts they would easily recollect on a full stomach.

Arrive to class early. This will give you time to settle down and focus. Take out your test supplies, including an extra pencil or two, and place them neatly on your desk.

Remember that it’s only a test. While we should always do our best, receiving a bad grade isn’t the end of the world. In the end, the only thing that’s going to matter a Christians is that we lived our lives to glorify Christ, and that we did everything we could do for His sake. Ecclesiastes 12:12–13: “…much study is wearisome to the flesh. Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is man’s all.”

By Michelle Jane

May 2009 Desktop Image

If you’d like to have our theme image on your desktop this month, simply click on “standard” or “wide-screen” underneath the photo, then right click on the image and select “set as background.”  Note: laptops are generally wide-screen, and desktops are usually standard images.

Pierce my heart to serve, 1 Peter 4:10 “As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.”

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May 2009, Edited by Davonne Parks – Standard or Wide-screen

The Perfect Pedicure

bb3Ok, so maybe the perfect pedicure would be described using the words free and spa, but for now, we’re going to talk about doing the perfect at-home pedicure. It’s sandal season, and our feet need to be ready!

As with our at-home manicures a couple months ago, there are several supplies we need for this at-home day at the spa. Make sure you have all of them on hand before you get started.

  • Tub with warm water
  • Scented lotion
  • Pumice stone
  • Foot scrub (peppermint, if possible)
  • Nail file or emery board
  • Nail clippers
  • Nail polish (in a bright, summery color!)
  • Clear polish (for base and top coats)
  • Nail polish remover
  • Cotton balls
  • q-tips/cotton swabs
  • towel

Now that you’ve gathered your supplies, it’s time to sit back and get started. You’re only a few simple steps from summery, sandal-ready feet!

  1. Remove all old polish with the remover and cotton balls. Make sure you also remove any polish that bleeds onto your toes as you do this––you don’t want blotchy feet!
  2. Soak your feet for 20 minutes in a tub or bowl of warm water mixed with a little scented lotion. This is the perfect time to grab a book, or your Bible, and catch up on some reading. When time’s up, thoroughly dry your feet with the towel.
  3. French Pedicure (click image for tuturial)Use the pumice stone (Pumice stones look like a hard, rectangular sponges––very porous––and can be found in the nail sections of most stores.) to slough off the dead, dry skin on the heels and balls of your feet. Doing this will make them much softer and smoother (especially after the cold winter weather). Wipe your feet with the towel.
  4. Gently massage the foot scrub (peppermint-scented is great, since it’s a naturally relaxing scent, which goes well with a foot massage––just don’t fall asleep!) onto your feet to finish scrubbing away any dead skin. Rinse with warm water when done, and dry.
  5. Clip your toenails to a desired length. Don’t go too short; allow them to extend just barely beyond your nail bed.
  6. Slowly file your toenails to remove any parts that might snag or scratch.
  7. After pushing back your cuticles, apply a basecoat of clear polish to protect against staining the nail. (When out in the sun, your nail polish tends to stain your toenails yellow more easily.) Allow to completely dry.
  8. Apply a coat of your favorite colored polish. (I love OPI Cajun Shrimp––perfect for summer!) When the first coat is dry, apply a second coat. If you get some on your toes, use the q-tip to carefully wipe off the excess.
  9. Apply your top coat of clear polish to protect against chipping and fading.
  10. Once the polish is dry, massage some scented lotion onto your feet and you’re ready to go.

Now that your toes look so fabulous, I think it’s time for a new pair of sandals to show them off…very soothing to the sole!

“How beautiful your sandaled feet…” Song of Solomon 7:1

By Lisa Grimenstein

Make it Modest: Giveaway

This month’s giveaway, valued at $25, is featured at the end of this article. Keep reading for details.

ss7With warmer weather approaching, that generally means less clothing. While we definitely don’t need to hide in jeans and long-sleeved shirts all summer, we still need to make sure our warm weather wardrobe is appropriate. A recent formal-wear article talks about why it’s important to dress modestly, and gives basic modesty tips that can be applied to everyday summer wear as well. For a refresher, read 1 Timothy 2:9, Matthew 5:27-28, and 1 Corinthians 8:9-12 in addition to the articles linked to above.

Make it modest

Purchasing modest clothing can be difficult and frustrating, so we’re going to cover a few tips on how to make immodest summer clothing more modest.

Layer it up. Tank tops can be a girl’s best friend! Yes, summer is hot, but a long, thin tank won’t add bulk to clothing, and will cover a multitude of top troubles. It will hide cleavage on a low-cut top and cover the back and belly on shorter shirts. I personally love Fashion Bug’s long stretch layering tanks. If you have a larger bust, you can carefully cut out the bra part of a tank top and adjust the straps so it will stay high enough. There’s no need to purchase a tank in every color––simply buy several in the colors you’ll use most, such as white, black, and brown. It’s also a good idea to have one or two wide-strapped tank tops to layer with other thin-strapped tops. Remember that these tank tops are for layering, not to wear alone!

Bermuda ShortsCut it off. Fortunately for the modest-conscious (which I hope is all of us!), bermuda shorts are in! Let’s take advantage of the bermuda shorts, because this is one trend that’d be good for us to keep around. If you’re on a limited budget, get a look like this for free by cutting off an old pair of jeans right above the knee. If you or someone you know can sew, you could also get this look by cutting and hemming a pair of Goodwill jeans to get the bermuda style, then sewing a shoelace onto the front to achieve the drawstring look.

Leg-it under. Last summer’s skirts that are a little too short (and I don’t mean mini!) can be paired with a pair of below-the-knee leggings. Black leggings with a little tie on the hem add some pizzazz to a normal outfit, and plain black leggings are sure to go with almost everything. Anything that’s super short (with the hemline more than a couple of inches above the knee) needs to be tossed, because even leggings won’t make that modest.

Shoe it down. High heels can make skirts and shorts seem even shorter than they are, so this summer, play it cheap and comfortable in a new pair of flip flops.

The giveaway

While it’s sometimes fun to creatively think of new ways to make clothes modest, it’s also refreshing to just look at a store that is already packed full of modest clothing. Bellissima Modesty Boutique is just that––a web store full of cute, modest clothes! Their key verse is “Let the beauty of the Lord be upon us” (Psalm 90:17). They have cute summer tops, some great skirts, fun accessories, and more.

Bellissima Blue 'Flowy' SkirtThe best part is that Bellissima has generously agreed to give away one $25 gift card to a reader! All you have to do is leave a comment below by Friday, May 29, 2009, stating one article of clothing you like from their site, or let us know your favorite modesty tip, and you’ll be entered in our drawing.

Comments are moderated, so they may take a day or so to appear. Make sure to include a valid e-mail address in your information (this will not appear in the post). The winner will be announced on May 31 and will be e-mailed with simple instructions on how to claim this prize. The winner must contact us back within seven days of our initial contact, or the gift card will go to someone else.

Reminder

Lime Ricki’s special offer is still available for all Pierce My Heart readers. You will save 10% off your entire purchase just by entering the coupon code HEART10 at their checkout by May 15, 2009!

This summer, have fun looking modest while staying cool!

By Davonne Parks

Visit our Monthly Issues page to view all of our past themes, and visit our May 2009 page to read our entire current issue about serving others.

Restore My Spirit

jft1There’s a song about restoring our souls, and the first verse goes like this:

Restore my spirit, Lord, I need restored.
My heart is weary, please help me, dear Lord.
I stand in need of more strength from Your Word,
Renew my love, rebuild my faith,
O restore my soul.

Sometimes we feel too empty or busy to give to others, and when this happens, we need to think and pray about the reason for that emptiness and lack of desire to serve. Often, the lack of desire comes from having so many activities going on that we fail to take time to renew ourselves.

While Jesus lived His life as a service to others (Mark 10:45), He also understood the importance of taking care of Himself and His relationship with God, as we find in Luke 15:16: “But Jesus Himself would often slip away to the wilderness and pray.”

When you find that you’re unable to give to others with the right heart (2 Corinthians 9:7), make sure you’re taking the time to renew your own spirit. This may mean cutting out an extra activity, turning off the TV, or skipping a night out with friends––just remember that in order to fully renew ourselves, we need to follow our Example, and turn in scripture and prayer to the One who created us.

By Davonne Parks

Pierce my heart to serve

May's Desktop Image1 Peter 4:10 “As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.”

We’ve all been blessed with special gifts, or talents, and one of the things we can do with our talents is use them to serve others, which is what this month’s theme is all about!

The articles

We’ll identify how and why serving is important, as well as give ideas about how teens and young adults can serve in the church and in the community, through carwashes, lending an ear, or practicing random acts of kindness throughout the day.

We’ll also talk about the greatest Servant of all, Jesus Christ, as we read more about Him in our daily Bible reading. We’ll discuss some of the things He desires for His church, and give a quick reference of a few ways we can serve others in order to reflect Him.

Civil Service (or jury duty) is a service that’s often required of people, and we’ll learn a little about that, as well as receive some insight about why we shouldn’t judge the judges. Depression, also something we don’t ask for, can leave us feeling deprived of the energy we need in order to serve others, so this month there will be an article that tells signs and symptoms of depression, as well as offer ways to find help.

Inappropriate lyrics in music is something we can easily overlook or excuse, but we need to think about what we’re allowing into our hearts, so this month there will be an article that will make us think twice about excuses, and will offer fun, upbeat alternatives to popular sounds that will help us to have pure servants’ hearts.

Those of you who are getting ready to cram for finals will enjoy our article about serving each other with a study party, and we’ll read about how we can serve God by helping guys keep their thoughts pure this summer by what we choose to wear. We’ll also post tips for hosting a parents’ night out; this event will offer free babysitting to give couples past the dating stage a chance to rejuvenate their romance and reconnect.

Homemade BrowniesCooking and Moms

This month also focuses on food in a big way, with our Gifted Girls column featuring baking and easy suggestions about serving others with baked goods (check there for information about what to submit for next month!), and our Cooking Corner’s special five-part “Delightful Dining” series. This series will include detailed instructions, tips, and ideas about all areas of planning a dinner party for others, from the day the idea occurs, to the clean-up afterward, and everything in between. We’ll close off the food series with a Health and Fitness article that discusses sensible solutions for common food cravings, and tips for eating the really fun stuff in moderation.

Mother’s Day is coming up this month (May 10), and we don’t want to forget our mothers who work so hard, often unnoticed and unappreciated, to serve their families. One girl writes an article expressing appreciation for her mother, and offers readers the opportunity to leave comments telling good things about their mothers, too. Put Mom first this Mother’s Day to make her feel pampered and appreciated, thanking her for the other 364 days each year that she puts everyone else’s needs above her own. A great way to do this would be to give her a pedicure, which you can do using the step-by-step instructions we’ll post!

Bathing Suit Discount

Lime Ricki offered a special giveaway last month, and you can still get a really great––and modest––bathing suit at a great price (especially if you shop their clearance section!) because Lime Ricki’s special offer is still available for all Pierce My Heart readers. You will save 10% off your entire purchase just by entering the coupon code HEART10 at their checkout by May 15, 2009!

Giveaway and volunteer news

news3Style Sense will talk about making immodest summer clothes more modest, and we’ll give away one $25 gift card to an online clothing store, so check back for more information about that!

If you need to be involved in a summer internship program, or would just like a way to serve this summer, please contact us for information about how you can volunteer for Pierce My Heart. No matter what your talent is, there’s sure to be a job for you, so don’t let lack of experience or writing skills stop you! You will not only be helping to spread God’s Word across the country, but you will also be able to put this volunteer experience on your resume or college applications.

This month

As you read the articles this month, think of ways you can put your talents to good use, no matter what skills you’ve been blessed with. Share Christ’s love with others by allowing His light to shine through you. Matthew 5:16: “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

Serving Him,
Davonne Parks