Making a Dorm a Home––Part 1

Entering college means for many of us entering a whole new realm––dorm rooms. Whether you have a roommate or are on your own, a private room, or a suite shared with several girls, there are some things you want to consider before moving in. In this series, we’ll cover some of the basics of dorm living and what you’ll need or want to make it your temporary home.

jft1Appliances

There are several appliances you might want to have in your dorm room. However, before rushing out to buy any of them, check with your dorm policies regarding which appliances and such are allowed in the dorm. Some schools don’t allow hot plates or other like items, since they can pose a fire hazard.

Microwave––A microwave is a very handy appliance when living in a dorm. While many dorms may have a small kitchenette for everyone to use, which includes a microwave, it’s nice to have one for yourself when you need to heat up a late-night snack or cup of hot chocolate. Look around at yard sales or clearance sections for a good deal on one, or check with people you know to see if they’re getting rid of an old one. Try to keep the size small, as most dorm rooms are not that large to begin with.

Mini-fridge––A small refrigerator is a great asset to your room. It allows so many options. Having a small fridge means you can stock healthier snacks for late study nights––yogurt, string cheese, orange juice. Or even the occasional roll of chocolate chip cookie dough. There is also a small freezer inside to keep a frozen meal or two for those times you aren’t able to make it to the cafeteria for dinner before it closes. Mini-fridges are often on sale toward the middle to end of summer, as the school year approaches, so start looking now if you’re considering buying one.

Iron––If you have anything at all that will need ironing––and you probably will––you need an iron and ironing board. The iron doesn’t need to be top of the line––a simple one should do the trick. If your dorm room is very small, a white towel can be laid on a table or desk in place of an ironing board.

Remember that these appliances are not essentials––don’t go tell your parents you have to have them!––but they can be helpful. There are many other items you may want to take with you to make your dorm a home––toaster oven, coffee maker (cheaper than buying Starbucks every morning!), or electric kettle. Keep in mind the amount of space you’ll have and whether or not a roommate may be bringing that same item. Which leads us to our topic for next time––sharing a room.

By Lisa Grimenstein

Instantly Changed: Sin and Consequence

Go here to read part one in this series.

The sin

h2h1During those three years, I broke up with Frank numerous times. The very last time I broke up with him, he told me that if I ever broke up with him again he would commit suicide. He really messed with my mind. I believed him and I never broke up with him again. Within a few months I was pregnant. I have always felt that it was Frank’s way of making sure that I would never leave him. I thought to myself, what Christian boy would want me now anyway?

It was a very humiliating time for me. Frank didn’t wear the “scarlet letter”; I did. I hid my pregnancy for 4 ½ months from everyone. Since I could sew, I made a couple of baggie tops to wear to camouflage my stomach getting bigger, and just kept my pants unbuttoned.

I never considered abortion and I never wanted to give my baby up for adoption. I was afraid that my parents would make me give my baby up. I was so scared. I had morning sickness and tried to hide that by telling my mom I had the flu. I wanted to run away. I wanted desperately to go to another state and get married to Frank. So many crazy thoughts went through my head, not wanting to tell my parents. I couldn’t hide it any longer and Frank wouldn’t let me run. He made me stay and confront my problems.

Frank came to my parents’ house one evening so that we could tell them about my pregnancy. I don’t think it came as a complete shock to them because one time my mom found a note in my purse that I had written to Frank, stating that I was upset because I was no longer a virgin. I felt so dirty all the time. I felt like a battle was going on inside of me for my soul. I felt so much guilt, which I rightfully should have felt. I felt so lost.

I can’t describe the embarrassment I felt when my parents knew I wasn’t a virgin. I was so ashamed. Sin is so devastating. A few moments of pleasure are not worth the humiliation and the consequences of sin, and those were just my consequences on this Earth! If the earthly pain of sin is so intense, I can’t imagine the consequences we will have in hell if we don’t repent.

h2h2My parents were considerably calm and loving to me and to Frank as well. I felt very blessed that they were my parents. Even still, it was so humiliating. I knew I had let them down, and I had let God down. I really felt like I was wearing a scarlet letter around my neck.

Some of my so-called girlfriends would no longer have anything to do with me because they didn’t want to ruin their reputations by being associated with me, even though several of them had acted in the same ways: they just hadn’t been caught. Most of the people at church were nice to me and I received numerous letters of encouragement from some of them. After my baby was born, they gave me a baby shower.

The consequence

I never, ever felt that my baby was the sin, but rather the consequences of my sin and disobedience to God. I dearly loved my baby from the earliest stages of my pregnancy. I remember feeling the little butterfly feelings of it moving inside me. It took my breath away the first time I felt it. I grew up around children and loved them, and I knew how to take care of them, so I wasn’t scared about becoming a mother.

h2h3I was in my junior year when I became pregnant. I only needed a few more classes to graduate, so I went early in the morning before school started and was tutored in the classes I needed to take. I graduated with the senior class. Graduation day was a totally humiliating experience for me. I cried all the way across the stage to receive my diploma. I wanted to disappear! I couldn’t get across the stage fast enough! My stomach was so huge! I wished I had the diploma mailed to me because that was a very horrible day.

I had my baby that summer following a long and difficult birth. Frank wasn’t there. He had enlisted in the Army and was in basic training. It was embarrassing to be a single, pregnant teenager giving birth. I was so glad to hold my precious new baby in my arms. I was so relieved that my baby was safe.

I’m glad that my mom taught me how to cook, how to care for my home, and how to care for my newborn. My mom was there for me but she was always careful not to intrude on me being my baby’s mama. I have used what my mom taught me all of my life.

I held my little baby close to me and snuggled with it. I would lay my baby across my lap and stroke its hair. My baby was so precious to me! My baby loved me and I dearly loved my baby. I have loved that child from before it was born and my love for this child grows deeper all the time. I loved it so much that when I was pregnant for my second child a few years later, I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to divide my love between them. I was wrong. Love doesn’t divide; it multiplies!

Check back next month to read part three.

Anonymous

Tie Dye!

Summer is a great time to make memories by tie-dying a shirt with friends or family. Whether you’re having a birthday party, about to go on vacation and want fun shirts to wear, or need a craft for VBS or church camp, this is a fun and easy activity. Be aware that the dye will stain, so make sure to wear old clothes when doing this activity.

If you don’t know how to tie-dye, you can look for instructions on a search engine or ask at a craft supply store. About.com also has helpful instructions, including a list of needed supplies and step-by-step instructions. They even include instructions for tie-dying beach towels!

Hover over the images below to read instructions.

Twist the shirt

Place rubberbands around the shirt

Pour the dye (for best results, use two colors)

Place the shirt in a bag

Let the shirt sit in the bag for 48 hours, to give the color time to set

While the rubber bands are still on, hose the shirt down

Remove rubber bands from shirt

Once rubber bands are removed, hose shirt again until water runs clear

Wash and dry shirts, with nothing else in the load

Once the shirts have been washed and dried, they may be washed with other items

Try your hand at making something tie-dye this month and enjoy your garment of many colors (Genesis 37:3).

Next month

If you’ve ever made jewelry, send us photos of your handmade creations by July 29 to be featured in our Gifted Girls article next month. You can e-mail all entries to Info @ PierceMyHeart .com (remove spaces).

By Davonne Parks

Giveaway: Make-up Bag

giveaway1Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. 2 Corinthians 9:7

Items

We have a fun giveaway this month, perfect for a late summer vacation or a college or camp kit!

Our make-up bag includes a bag filled with these items:

Rimmel mascara in black
Cover Girl nail polish in a sparkly golden tone for summer
Estee Lauder eye make-up remover
Bath and Body Works nail file
Loreal HiP eye shadow in Exhilarating (blue)
Loreal colour juice sheer juicy lip gloss in Watermelon Crush
CG wetslicks lip gloss in shimmershell (light pink)

Rules

To enter, just leave a comment below by Wednesday, July 29, 2009, letting us know something you’d like to see appear on the magazine in the future, and you’ll be entered in our drawing.

Comments are moderated, so they may take a day or so to appear. Make sure to include a valid e-mail address in your information (this will not appear in the post). The winner will be announced on July 30 and will be e-mailed with simple instructions on how to claim this prize. The winner must contact us back within seven days of our initial contact, or the prize will go to someone else.

A special thanks goes to Lisa (the editor) for putting this bag together!

– Davonne Parks

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College Edition: Purpose and Prepare

devo4We recently discussed how to choose a school, as well as offered wisdom from women who’ve been there, so please read that article if you haven’t already.

Purpose and Prepare

Beginning a new chapter in life is always exciting, but we don’t rush into big decisions without taking time to prepare for the changes, do we? Being away from the adults and other influential people in our lives, we will soon realize that if we’re going to do something, it’s on our shoulders and we must make time for it; we need to decide ahead of time what kind of person we’ll be in college. I like the phrase, “purposed in [his] heart,” because it shows the maturity and responsibility of a person to make the best decision and stick to it. Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not take part in the king’s delicacies (Daniel 1:8). Will we be responsible and purpose in our hearts to use our time wisely in college? Whether you attend a state school or a Christian school, there are a few things for which we must be prepared to set aside time:

Studying. Let’s take two looks at studying. One, studying for our classes. While it may not always be enjoyable, it’s profitable and needed. If you are going to pay the money for college and work toward a degree of some sort, it is only logical to study and learn the material well. Studying doesn’t have to be exhaustive and boring, though! Spice up studying at times by having study nights with the girls in your dorm. Make snacks and play memory or flashcard games. Be creative! Secondly, studying God’s Word. Even if you attend a Christian school, you still need personal Bible study and prayer. Don’t count on getting all you need spiritually from Bible classes and weekly worship services. Taking time alone to let God speak to you through His Word, and to pray to Him, is vital in a Christian girl’s spiritual growth.

devo5Extra Activities. It might take a while to get adjusted, but once you are comfortable in college, seek out different activities in which you can help others, grow in Christ, and also relax and have fun! Look for church student centers where you can meet other Christians and take part in activities of fellowship and worship. Become part of community service groups or other clubs that assist people or causes. If you like athletics, try out for a sports team if you will have the time to dedicate to that. However, while it is good to be involved, never overload yourself. In college, the extra-activity possibilities are nearly endless; just make sure to take part in the ones that glorify God.

Family and Friends. The hardest part about college for so many is leaving behind family and friends. That’s perfectly natural! We have attachments to these people, and we find security and love in being around them. In college, you will likely meet more of these people, but it will take time. Carrie Underwood has a song called “Don’t Forget To Remember Me” that captures the feeling of leaving home for college. In it, the responsibility of being on our own is illustrated, and we feel that longing to still be part of “home.” Take advantage of the free moments you’ll have to send a heartfelt e-mail, write a friendly letter, or give a kind call to a loved one. “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24). Your close ones will appreciate the remembrance from you!

God. Most importantly overall, it is of the greatest urgency that we prepare our hearts and use our time wisely for God. He, after all, is the One who allows us to attend college, and we owe our lives to Him. Just like mentioned earlier in the latter part of “Studying,” time with God is vital to our growth as Christians. Also, recall our key Scripture this month: “…fear God and keep His commandments, for this is man’s all” (Ecc. 12:13). In college, we may be tempted to rearrange our priorities. We as young Christian ladies have got to place in the front of our minds that our whole purpose here is to glorify, respect, and honor God and keep His Word in all we do. Doesn’t that slow everything down and put life in simple perspective? Make special time for God everyday, so that He can help you continue steadfast in your life for Him.

Oh, The Places You’ll Go

devo3Several of my close brothers and sisters in Him are graduating this year. I am saddened by their departure, but I have faith that they will make great impacts for Christ on the people they meet. They may stay near to home or they may go far, but they will always be able to be close to God. Here is an excerpt from Dr. Seuss’s Oh, The Places You’ll Go!: “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the [girl] who’ll decide where to go.” Now, as you depart on a bright new road, where will you go? What will you do for Christ? Make the most of this wonderful time in your life–for Him!

By Hannah Smith

Pierce my heart: college edition!

Ecclesiastes 12:12-13 “…Of making many books there is no end, and much study is wearisome to the flesh … Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is man’s all.”

news1Welcome to the college edition of Pierce My Heart! This month we’re focusing on many aspects of college preparation, including choosing a college, becoming financially savvy at school, and the highest learning we can achieve.

We’ll also talk about staying emotionally close to family members while physically far away; we’ll include college tips that any college freshman can benefit from; and there will be an article that offers wisdom from Christian women who have been there.

We’ll discuss the different types of colleges and the benefits each type offers, including state schools, private and Christian universities, community colleges, and online schools.

Since college students will probably make many new friends, we’ll also have articles about activities to do with those friends, such as backyard sports, tie-dying shirts, campfire cooking, and campus study sessions.

If you’re going to live away from home, you’ll probably enjoy our articles about chic sleepwear, avoiding the “freshman 15,” living with roommates, and decorating a dorm or apartment.

Sunglasses are on sale in many places by now, which makes our article about choosing flattering sunglasses very fitting, and perfect for driving to college in style!

Our Heart to Heart summer series, “Instantly Changed,” will continue this month, so be sure to check that out.

Suicide is something that some of us will have to deal with some time in our lives, which is why we’ll be addressing this very sad and serious issue this month.

Other news

agly3After much thought and prayer, I’ve decided that articles will no longer appear on Sundays, which will allow for a full day of worship, family time, and rest. New articles will continue to appear every other day of the week, so if you do read Pierce My Heart on Sundays, there should be several articles from the previous week (and past months) to browse through – just make sure that you’re enhancing, not replacing, your own worship or study time with articles and books from other places.

Giveaway and thoughts

We’re going to give away a bag of beauty products this month, so check back soon for details about that.

Whether you’ve already gone to college, will be leaving this fall, or won’t head to college for a few years, or at all, we hope you can enjoy and benefit from these articles.

Remember to keep it all in perspective, though, and that in the end the only thing that matters is that we lived our lives for Christ and are His children. He doesn’t care about what type of degree we have (or don’t have) – all He cares about is that we are obedient to Him and have given our lives to Him, talking about His love with as many people as possible.

Sharing Him,
Davonne Parks

College Edition: Choosing and Wisdom

devo1Can you believe it’s summer already? I’m positive you are all glad for a break from school—unless you are involved in summer studies or college prep! We will focus on Ecclesiastes 12:12-13 during the month of July: “…Of making many books, there is no end, and much study is wearisome to the flesh…fear God and keep His commandments, for this is man’s all.” That passage is very fitting for our theme, “Pierce my heart: college edition!” If you are preparing to head to college this fall or sometime soon, I pray this devotional will be helpful to you. If you are still in middle or high school, I hope it can still be a reminder of how important it is to keep God where He belongs—in the driver’s seat of our lives.

Choosing a School

To attend college is a huge blessing! Those of you who are readying to enter this stage of your lives should realize that there are so many people who want to go to college, but cannot for various reasons. College is a wonderful opportunity to grow in Christ, meet other Christians, study new and enthralling subjects, and get involved in good, wholesome activities.

Public colleges and universities are likely to have the same type of people and ideas as a public high school. But now you are on your own, and the temptations call for a more mature person to handle them. This is not to say a Christian cannot overcome the temptations in these schools. There are plenty of good public or state schools that have church student centers. I have Christian friends who enjoy these as good places to learn about nearby congregations, as well as find other Christians with whom they can build strong relationships!

Christian universities, on the other hand, are wonderful in their own special way! Although they are sometimes pricier, numerous Christians relate to me that the experience is well worth the money if the school is reputable and grounded in God’s Word. Some schools may have the title “Christian,” but do not teach the Truth. Please carefully research the “Christian schools” to find one that will allow you to become stronger in your faith and love for God and His Word. If you have a desire (and the money or scholarships) to attend a Christian school, I commend you in that!

Lastly in choosing, it is always a must to visit the school you are interested in. Explore the campus and ask questions to those escorting you around. More importantly, pray about choosing the right place! Always keep in mind the comforting passage in Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

devo2Wisdom from Women

For this devotional, I wanted to get firsthand information about college experiences from wise Christian ladies in my life. I asked a few different questions, and these are the real and true replies of Christian women:

1. How did you/are you staying close to God in college/while you were in college?

  • Good, strong Christian friends and/or roommates; being around like-minded people.
  • Going to worship, singings, retreats, campus devotionals, and other activities of fellowship and worship.
  • Personal Bible study and prayer.
  • Developing my own faith–not being a Christian just because it’s what my parents taught.

2. What was/is the hardest part about college?

  • Not making a habit of skipping services because parents are not there to tell you otherwise.
  • Making time to study the Bible amid all the schoolwork and activities.
  • Projects and due dates all piling up at once.
  • Having to study really hard for classes.
  • Being away from family.

3. Any more advice or extra comments to Christian girls about to enter college?

  • Be devoted to God.
  • Don’t give up on your faith!
  • Be convicted and passionate in what you say and do, because people are watching and you are making impressions for God.
  • Pull through exam weeks with friends to help you.
  • Don’t leave God out–never let anything get in the way of keeping Him first.
  • Make a game plan before leaving home to keep your faith strong and stay close to God; pray for His help, and stick to it!

I encourage you to speak with the Christian ladies you know about their experiences. Take their advice to heart, and thank God for them!

Coming Up

We’ll soon discuss having a purpose in college, and preparing ourselves for the ride, so stay tuned!

By Hannah Smith

Top Ten College Tips

tt1Ecclesiastes 12:12-13 “…Of making many books there is no end, and much study is wearisome to the flesh… Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is man’s all.”

For those of you who have yet to go to college, you may not completely understand how true the first statement is. You can have anywhere from 1 to 10 different books for the quarter/semester, particularly if you have some kind of English-related subject. And the studying doesn’t end. Most of the tests will cover the entire quarter/semester so you have to keep reviewing everything. For those of you going to college, remember to have fun in between the studying! I thought I’d do something a little different this month, offering my top 10 college tips:

1) Buy a Brita pitcher. The water at my school was not only bad tasting without one, it was possibly mutagenic.

2) If you live close enough to home, wash clothes and dishes there. Washing clothes at school gets expensive in a hurry – depending on the college, it can be $2 or $3 to complete a load. As for washing dishes, again, you have no idea what is in the water!

3) Don’t rely on school food to keep you healthy. It can be full of fat, sugar and all other kinds of unhealthy items! (And beware of the ‘vegetarian’ line––vegetarian does not necessarily mean healthy. I personally was left with the choice of salads and grilled chicken for lunch and dinner for 4 years – yikes). Remember – most schools allow you to have a mini fridge and a microwave – put them to good use, especially for healthy snacks.

4) School books are expensive; don’t buy them from the school – they mark them up over the price of a new one. Usually you can get by without the books the first week. On the first day, they will give you a syllabus (I have some that have been five or six pages long) and it will list the books you need. Find them online! (Amazon is a great resource.) You can also buy them used from most school bookstores or other textbook providers. Unless they are in awful condition, they are just as good as a new one––and so much cheaper! Also keep in mind that some teachers will never refer to the textbook, so ask ahead of time to determine whether or not you even need it.

tt55) If you have a hobby (video games, books, PC games), don’t go out and find a new one to read/play right before a test or finals week! I have all of these. There have been times when I have gotten myself into trouble because I couldn’t put the book down or couldn’t stop playing. Staying up all night to study is generally not a good thing right before a test.

6) Have fun making new friends – try joining some organizations. If you don’t want to join a sorority or social club, check out the service clubs or academic groups that correspond with your field of study. (Make sure you consider if the club is consistent with your values and beliefs.) You can share all the ups and downs of college life together.

7) Enjoy being a college student: don’t just focus on the studying, no matter how important. My college offered many ways to get together and have fun. Free movies, multicultural fairs, ethnic nights, foam parties, cooking classes, etc.

8 ) Don’t let your new-found independence go to your head and forget to call home. I called home once a week to find out how everything was going and how everyone was doing. You’re less likely to get homesick.

9) Find a way to relieve your stress. College can be fun, but it’s still a lot of hard work. Find an outlet that works for you, such as reading, going for a walk, or writing in a journal.

10) Remember: You are representing Christ! Show your friends and the people around you Christ living in you. Don’t compromise your beliefs and actions to please anyone but God.

By Megan Skinner

On-Campus Study Session

agly3“For Ezra had devoted himself to the study and observance of the Law of the LORD.” Ezra 7:10

The weather may be warm and the sun may be shining, but we’re quickly approaching the start of a new school year. Many will be heading off to college––some for the first time. The beginning of a new school year offers a great opportunity to help out. Whether it’s your first year at a new school, or you’re returning to campus, an on-campus study session is a great way to make new friends or renew bonds with old ones.

Getting started

Assuming that you’re starting out at a new school, organizing a study group is a great way to get to know people. As you meet people, or as a way of meeting them, let them know that you’re thinking of starting a Bible study group. You may ask several girls on your hall in your dorm or some people from your biology class. I would recommend keeping it small at first, only 4–6 people.

When you have your group together, discuss a day and time. Keep in mind that college schedules widely vary. Many students have classes or labs in the evenings, or work jobs after class to make extra money. You may have interested people who just won’t be able to participate at the time. You may also find that your group has time available during an afternoon or on a Saturday morning. Once you have a day and time to meet, you need to decide on a location. You may reserve a study room in the library, meet in someone’s dorm room (if all of your study buddies are female), or find a quiet coffee shop or book store.

dbr3Next, choose a topic to study. This will help keep things moving when you get together. Don’t count on just coming together without a topic or book to discuss––it may result in everyone sitting and staring at one another. Decide on a book of the Bible that everyone agrees on. Or choose to discuss a specific topic, such as gossip, purity, or temptation. You may also agree on a book about a biblical topic to study by an author you’d all like to read. Just remember that although other authors may have very biblical things to say on certain topics, there is only one Author and Book you should ultimately go to for answers.

Your study session

Although there may be occasional exceptions, it’s important that everyone arrive to the session on time. You are all taking time out of busy schedules and study time and activities to be there, so be considerate of others’ time. The routine of the session itself is up to you. You may choose to start with prayer requests and praises and then have some time of prayer. Or you may leave that until the end. Even though praying out loud may seem awkward at first, try it anyways, even if it’s just a short prayer, and allow all group members to take turns leading in the upcoming weeks – praying out loud in a group setting is a skill that will serve all of you well throughout the years. Designate someone to keep everyone on topic. However, there may be times when something is on the heart of someone, and it’s completely appropriate to get sidetracked in order to develop closer relationships with others and with God through life experiences.

Although there should be some sense of routine, also remember to keep it casual. Have a snack on hand, or a pot of coffee available. Enjoy one another’s company and relationship while taking time out of school studies to study God’s Word.

By Lisa Grimenstein